What makes a woman seem weak to a man? & what makes a man lose respect for a woman?

[Anonymous]

I genuinely love my ex & he knows I have unconditional love for him.
I will admit to having begged him to stay in the past & having apologized various times for things that were indeed not my fault. They were his fault, and he tried making it seem was all my fault. I have always jumped in to fix things even when I didn't mess them up & he never apologized for the mess he created, I knew they weren't my fault but I apologized in hopes to work things out. I always went running back. Through time, I have noticed his general demeanor towards me has changed. He seems to not respect me at all. He says condescending comments and remarks about me as a person, treats me terribly, & talks down on me.
what can I do to gain my respect back as a woman and have this person treat me like a human being again & not view me as so weak?
what about me makes him view me as so weak?
What can I change/stop doing so that this stops?

[scotty01]

I have to say I too am in your situation and have been for the last four years. I too ask the same question how to stop doing so that is stops.
I’ve had the same problem with my girlfriend who left me for an ex boyfriend again which didn’t even last four half months. I really don’t think he’s into you or is a very good manipulation on you to believe that the problem is all you. As that’s the same situation I had too I was pulled down and had no respect for me either and was always condescending comments and remarks about me too. They have another motive which there hiding from you. And there betrayal you behind your back which they are covering up and using those remarks and comments to make you feel like it’s all your fault puts you down and just makes you feel shit.

There seeing someone else behind your back and having sex with the other person.
There guilty for what they have done. So it’s not there fault at all and that it’s really there fault

[Anonymous]

First, stop apologizing for things that aren't your fault. Think of it in the reverse. If it were him, how would you see him?

Aside from that, as far as him changing or the situation... there's so many variables (depends on him as a person), it may or may never change honestly. My only advice would be, 1) stop apologizing 2) Don't take his verbal abuse. When he does it, say things like "I'm not going to stand here and let you talk down to me, you need to start treating me with some respect", things like that. And walk away. But... you also say he's your ex now? So why the contact still? Maybe it's time to move on and cut him out of your life? He's not good for you.

[Opinion Owner]

And if you can't cut him out for whatever reason (like a child?), then limit your contact with him to only when necessary.