In my pursuit of a job in the research office at my university, I reached out to one of the RKE officers, whom I had known for several years since I worked in the office on a temporary basis in 2019. He mentioned he was looking for an assistant, a role I was interested in. We exchanged contact information and our interactions eventually became personal. However that day we did and later on I went with him to his office where we had some fun. We met for coffee and later at his house quite a few times and we both sexted and sent each other pics of ourselves.
However, despite our personal connection, he started displaying a heightened interest in another colleague. I know this girl as she was seeing one of the guys I liked last year and I already hated her for that. I also hated the fact that she was working in the research office.
However, he apparently had his eyes on her since last year and since the last month or so, they started talking a lot more and he was openly flirting with her, even in the presence of office colleagues, and let her accompany him to meetings with students. His interactions with her included frequent online messaging, sharing photos of himself and his cats, and complimenting her appearance, calling her glowing, radiant, pretty etc. However, he constantly nudges her on her arm, playfully touches her feet with his and is very flirty with her.
Meanwhile, he began to avoid me, going as far as leaving the office early to prevent encounters because I had been texting him and he was not replying to me. Finally I went to his office looking for him but that day he wasn't there as if he already knew that I would come looking for him. I sent him one last message saying that I went to his office and he finally responded to my messages. Surprisingly, he claimed that he's not looking for an assistant and cited a toxic office environment as a reason for not assisting me.
This situation has left me feeling used?
he's 46. I am 36.
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Sadly Yes, he has "just been using you". Knowing your situation it was "easy" for him to "open a door" for you which seemed legit as a Job but "shady" in to tricking you, and getting between your legs! What "power" does from some called "men"... Been there done that! I worked for one of these "low life's" too...🤦♂️🤷♂️
why is he openly flirting with the other girl?
Because all he wanted from you, is what you have between your legs. So once he "got it" you're no more use for him. He needs "fresh meat". He liked you before and he didn't knew how to get to you, so knwing your situation he kinda set up a "trap" for you tricking you in to thinking that he could "offer you a job" to which his intentions were totally opposite. 🤷♂️
he's not hiding his flirting from other colleagues for her, why not and he constantly calls her pretty, glowing, radiant etc
You should just forget about it and move on. He show you his True face/Colours, so you need to accept your defeat and move on! Nothing you can about it.🤷♂️
I can see that your anger lingers on as you keep reffering to the other one, but just forget about it!
I've been in your shoes twice. I walked away and never looked back. Situations like that can be very heartbreaking. But, now you have to walk away from the situation. Keep all conversations between you strictly about BUSINESS. That's it! Don't let this situation re occur.
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