I’ve fell in love but he doesn’t love me back?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been having sex with someone, we have never been official but very close friends. The sex is amazing, I’ve fell in love and he doesn’t feel the same. He’s had a very messed up childhood and opening says he’s feels nothing for anyone or anything. I struggle with this as he is genuinly a lovely person (I’ve known him 15 years)

I’ve told him I love him numerous times, I show it and he’s never backed away or shyed away from our relationship. Of course nothing has progressed either. He isn’t the type to talk about feelings, but he says he cares about me, respects and trusts me. He was abused as a child, and has a very distorted view on sex. He struggles to show affection but I can bring it out of him. Though I’m not sure it’s genuine or just to get what he wants.

my question is is he capable of love, can he love me and be afraid too, when a guy falls in love does he know it to be love.

[Anonymous]

This is like a guy asking this question with a woman who's mentally ill. You chose him. His past trauma is apart of him. It's a package deal. He can get better if he works to get better. But it will ALWAYS be a part of him. If you didn't want to accept that you should have never er chose him. Sorry that's just the way it is.

[boggboss]

How could anyone answer this for his when his situation is so specific

[Anonymous]

You know his and you don't have the answer to that question. We are strangers and we don't know anything - NOTHING - about him, so how would we know?

[spartan55]

Or he just isn't interested in anything serious with you.

[ThrillSeeker01]

It sounds like he has issues. Never easy to deal with.

[bededazzle]

listen to what he says and believe it.

[Drumlin2001]

Sounds like he needs intense therapy.

[Anonymous]

Move on. Don't waste any more of your time.