I have gone out 2x with my ex The first time was dancing and he was very casual wear and the second was to see Christmas lights and again casual?

[Anonymous]

When I mean he casual I mean he didn’t put the effort other people would (including myself). On top of all of these he would show up late. When we agreed on a time but then blame me for now waiting on his text to leave his house. My question is should I just cut it off?

[Oliverlogan263]

Luv, the way your ex is acting on these hangouts is kinda lame if you ask me. Showing up late and not even dressing casual is low effort. Like you ain't even worth wearing decent clothes for or being on time? Not cool.

Then trying to blame you for not waiting on his texts? What a cop out. Dude needs to take some responsibility. Sounds like he ain't even that into seeing you if he can't even muster some basic effort or respect.

I say cut him off. You deserve way better than that half-assed treatment. Like if he wants to kick it, he can put in the work to see you right. Don't just roll with how he's acting now or he'll keep walking all over you.

Tell him straight, his weak excuses don't fly anymore and if he wants another shot he's gotta step it WAY up. Then you'll see his real interest level. But from the outside looking in, I wouldn't waste my time. Plenty of guys out there who'd appreciate you forreal.

You got this! Don't let any dude treat you like an afterthought. You're worth more than that BS.

[spartan55]

He's your ex... what exactly would you be cutting off?

[Asker]

Total communication

[spartan55]

That's what you should have done to begin with. You need to find a guy you can dress the way you want.

[Asker]

Yes I understand. I messed up by continuing to speak with him. I don’t want to dress them to my liking but, I do want someone who is mindful of where we are going and be on time.

[AviatorTom]

Sounds like he's not your ex to you. Why are you dating him?

[Asker]

How does he not sound like a ex?

[AviatorTom]

You're still seeing him. People don't do that with an ex. 🙈🙊🙉

[Asker]

What should I do then?

[AviatorTom]

If you really treat him as you ex... simple... stop seeing him!

[Anonymous]

I'll buy you a house if you leave him for me.