Me and my ex have been spending A LOT of time together and enjoying it!?

[jennifermusick3237]

I dated this guy for 2 years, and about two months ago, we broke up due to just needing to break up..there was no cheating, nothing horrible like that. But for the last couple of months we have never really quit talking..we still hold each other above everyone else, but I never really saw hope to get back together. Lately, things have been changing. For the past week, I've stayed with him every night. And not just at night, we actually spend whole days together sometimes. And we haven't been fighting at all, we laugh and have fun just like we used to.

My question is, would he be doing all of this to put on a show or do you think he is actually meaning all of this and actually trying to work on things like we had spoken about?

I'm really happy when I am with this guy.

[LuckyLady]

Well, before you get your hopes up on getting back together, you need to discuss the reasons for the break up. If you go back into a relationship without fixing the problems, it will just end up the same way...broken. He doesn't really have anything to gain by "putting on a show" for you, so I'd say he's enjoying the time, too. It's awesome that you guys are getting along really well right now. That's a step in the right direction. That's how it is with my ex right now. We're having lots of fun with each other. It was always so easy to be with each other, and it feels amazing to have that ease again. We've talked about getting back together actually, but we know that until the root problems are discussed and fixed, we can't be together as a couple. We love each other too much to give up yet, but like I said, those issues have to be discussed and fixed first. No relationship is perfect. It really comes down to communication a lot of times. So, my suggestion is to make sure you work out and solve your issues before trying again. I hope it works out! It sounds like you're off to a good start/new beginning, though.

[MrScTi]

From the looks of things, he simply enjoys your company just as much as you enjoy his. Two years and two months is quite a long time to be together, and unless you are talking about breaking up on bad terms, there's almost no need to completely shun one another. You two clearly have great chemistry together, but the real question is, are you better off as friends, or lovers?

This is a dicey situation because you both feel liberated after the break-up. When people "change", it usually happens because they rid themselves of the atmosphere that caused them so much grief. However, put them in the same situation again, and you realize that they really didn't change much at all. The grass is always much greener on the other side, and now you're looking back and thinking "maybe it wasn't so bad!". You have to understand that whatever caused the break-up could easily happen again under the same circumstances. You might get along now as friends, but as lovers it might not be as fulfilling and joyous. I hate to end so sourly but that's just how I see it!