My boyfriend and my job?

[Anonymous]

I have my bar and I do some jobs on the side. When I met my boyfriend I started to dedicate all my time (and money) to him and then I also got sick, my bussiness started falling apart, when I struggled with money I asked him to help me out and he refused.

I'm feeling better now and I just decided to work as much as possible (like I used to) and fix everything.

He asked me to go away for the weekend but I just can't afford myself time off. I asked him if he could borrow me some money then (it was more like a test) and he said no. He said he didn't have (lies). And I said then better not spend on vacation either and that I will work for the weekend. And he agreed.

Today he texted me again and was talking about weekend. And I told him we can only see each other on Friday night because I will work on Saturday and Sunday. And he started sulking and asking me why are you treating me this way.

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Question is why is he mad now. And he is like you are not treating me like you used to... dude I just can't focus on you all the time

[_Maya_]

Well first off he doesn't owe you the favor of giving you money because your business was failing. Would it be nice and the right thing to do if he could afford to do it? Yeah of course it would. As for the second part I don't understand. How can he say he has no money and then want to go away for a weekend... which would cost money I assume? He obviously does but again does not owe it to you to give you money. Again that goes back to the doing the nice thing which he isn't going to and that is his right. As for the sulking because you have to work extra and you aren't available that is just immature of him. He should understand you are trying to right the ship with your business.

[_Maya_]

He is mad because he is immature and can't understand that you have a life and responsibilities.

[Asker]

He is needy but I can't afford myself to focus on him especially not right now

[_Maya_]

I totally understand that from what you wrote. You need to get your house in order first so to speak. I think you are doing the right thing by getting back on your feet.

[boggboss]

What are u asking u picked which sounds like a shitty partner so...

[HortAgent56]

I think you know what the answer to your question is. Tell him what's bothering you because this seems like less than ideal behavior.