Should I tell my boyfriend that I lost my job?

[Anonymous]

So me and my boyfriend have been together for only 3 months. I moved to this area away from all of my family 2 years ago. Its been hard making friends and etc. I got laid off about a month ago, and i am low on money. Soon I will have to check into a homeless shelter and continue my search for employment. I really don't want to tell him, I have been keeping it a secret from everybody. its so early in our relationship and I don't want him to feel like I am burden to him.

[Anonymous]

It may be a good idea to mention it to him but in a way that he doesn't instantly think that your expecting anything from him. Just explain you got laid off been looking for a job since and it just hasn't been going to well. I know it's early in the relationship but if you gots yourself a keeper he'll offer some type of assistance with no hesitation. He may even get upset you waited so long to tell him. Its up to you if you accept his help. Good luck! Ur just at a rough spot right now things always tend to get better after the struggle.

[1000111001]

You have to tell him because you don't know how he will react. Don't assume he will be upset. its a mans natural instinct to want to support and care for a woman. They love to feel needed and important

[Asker]

ha I wish! Not the 2012 man,honey.

[1000111001]

ahh, so true. lol. don't you miss the 50's? jk

[TheUglyOne]

Being his relatively new girlfriend, I don't see a need to tell him, but if you guys see each other on a regular basis, he's probably going to figure somethings up - especially if he's already been to your place. And he might conclude you lost interest in him or cheating, it's just human nature to assume the worse. Can't really advise you what to do. You guys haven't really be together long enough to move in with each other.

I hope you can find a job soon, it's hard in this economy today.

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry, but something isn't adding up.

You are almost homeless, but you have internet access and I'm assuming a cell phone?

Regardless, you will have to make some budget adjustments.

Ask your boyfriend if he would feel comfortable with you staying with him for a little while. Make yourself useful. Cook, clean, and make him feel appreciated. Find odd jobs and get your act together.

[Asker]

lol ever heard of McDonald's free wifi? I go there or either barnes and nobles everyday to search for jobs... I am collecting unemployment right now, not very much. not enough to pay rent and utilities. I

[Asker]

my phone bill is only $40 dollars a month and I feel that is necessity. Its prepaid. I have cut out all of non necessities.

[Opinion Owner]

I'm not criticizing or hating. Just observing. It just seems ironic that you are almost homeless and have a cell phone and laptop. Only in America...

[Asker]

if I don't have a cell phone, how exactly will employers looking to interview me contact me? My laptop I use to apply for jobs. your obviously one of those people who think once you lose your job you must immediately sale everything like your car, forgetting that you would need the car to get to work and job interviews. This isn't a third world country buddy.

[Asker]

This is EXACTLY why I keep this to myself. Saling my laptop will get me $150 tops, that's not goign to pay rent and etc. And my laptop, phone , and car are the only things I own right now. smh. exactly why I keep this to myself and I am anonymous.

[Asker]

In addition, most places won't even hire you if you don't transporation to get to work. Public transportation costs money, more than keeping my f***ing car. Am I suppose to walk 2 hours to a interview and show up sweaty and nasty and expect them to hire me? ridiculous.

[Opinion Owner]

No need to get angry. Just do what you have to do. Seems like you have all the answers anyway.

[TheUglyOne]

Asker good response!

[Anonymous]

Yup, you should tell him that you lost your job.