Why would a guy spend all kinds of money on a woman he knows he probably never wants a serious relationship with?

[Bethany22]

Like, why is he bothering to be so nice?

[XXTruthfulOgrexx]

Depends on what you mean by "all kinds of money"

As an example. I may have plans at a nice restaurant I frequent and I find someone I want to invite and the meal comes to as an example 500. Now if it was just me, I may still spend 300+ just on myself with drinks, full meal and dessert etc. So the extra money, while to her may seem expensive is just a minor addition in my opinion.

This type of viewpoint can also include weekends out, vacations and or special events. Just adding the other person to an event I had already planned to attend isn't going to increase the cost that I would see as expensive.

Now, if your referring to gifts, it can still be rationalized. Let's say a friend broke her Iphone and she wants a new one and doesn't have the money. If I consider her a good friend I would replace it for her and let's say it was 2000. Now she may think "OMG he must really care for me!!" In reality given my income level and investments I will replace that amount in less than an hours time. That being the case it would be no different than her buying a pack of juicy fruit gum at CVS. Again I wouldn't see that as a super generous amount. Technically speaking, I would consider the cost very minimal like if I had purchased a pack of gum.

Women go nuts when guys may spend 5K+ on them for "the bag" but in reality they need to look closely at the man's income. For him it could be a drop in the bucket next to his earnings. He may just see her as another used up piece of gum at the end of the date and move on to a new flavor and spend the same amount on someone else the following day.

[mobiusforniner]

Are you just assuming he doesn’t want a serious relationship? I had a close “friend” whom I’d spend all kinds of money for. It simply didn’t matter because for me, her worth was beyond any monetary value. I had no desire to sleep with her. It was just seeing her be so happy, I’d do anything to see her smile or hear her giggle. I kept denying it on the outside but was truly in love with her on the inside.

so what makes you think he doesn’t want anything serious?

[blueonblack22]

He actually would not spend so much money on someone he intended to date long term. Reason being he doesn’t want to her expecting that for the rest her life. Think about it. There is a reason why men hate gold diggers.

If you are having some guy pampering you right now then you are just a prostitute. He is just going through the motions of thinking he is “dating” you because the interaction seems more humane then just putting down a few hundred bucks for an hour in bed.

Besides his money he in himself is not special to you. Just admit it. If you liked him for more than money then you would occasionally do something nice for him within your means. Either that you would feel guilty about him spoiling you.

He is either very insecure that you might of never liked him if he was an average Joe (which is probably the truth) OR he wants complete control of the relationship.

I have no sympathy for western women who find themselves in the latter and don’t like that scenario. They choose that. Any woman can make it on her own nowadays if she really wanted to in the west.

Different story in 3rd world countries though.

[starfoxxy64]

On all warning ⚠️ I have been a victim of Flase and liers who enjoy claims of being any thing low life loser who basically take advantage of women. Who had also had been going through a very difficult time which I even got no help from my banks or credit cards which this loser had screwed my who life which I only 34 years old and now in hardships where I have tried to process the bank account fraud department which when a loser fake account on those sugar dad sites. Which he actually got away with all my money and even got me banned by a huge company all because they won't believe any thing since the bank account won't understand, I was not even any own any apple iPad which the fraud department lady started saying " Are you currently trying to attempt to login to you Chase app through a Apple iPad?" Which her whole tone was sounding like she tried accuse me of theft and lying to fraud department which I told the woman " Why in the world would I ever want to reverse any transactions especially a $450 plus more amount transaction which I had to do and then my payments for my doctor bills. Which why I will never trust any person any more not even trying to make my life be coming completely honesty homeless which this guy actually did the credit cards which the flase sugar daddy he actually had made me homeless from him scamming me

[Angelo75]

He could be "just nice"... u know.

Or you might be reading his signals wrong and he DOES want a serious relationship.

Or maybe he just have enough money to spend and just want the company because he is lonely somehow?

Without much info about the guy it's hard to figure out on a forum what could be driving him.

[FunkyMonkee]

Maybe he's just a very nice guy and isn't doing it to get into her panties. There's been times where, if I had the money, I'd offer to pay for the groceries for the woman in line in front of me just because I felt like doing it and it's nice to help out.

[Billlewis]

Mr. FunkyMonkee gets an A+! Well said, Sir.

[FunkyMonkee]

@Billlewis Thank you! Thank you! Please, no applause. Just throw money.

[Billlewis]

Yes, Sir.

[7Phoenix7]

I don't know, I had to literally cut all contact with a guy because he wouldn't accept that I didn't want a relationship or sex. So friendship is out of the question and I'm still getting gifts in the mail

[sage2021]

Maybe he likes to enjoy a good meal, etc., and doesn't want sex from her. He could be rich and is used to spending that kind of money on himself and his date.
Do we always have to think everything on God's green earth is related to sex somehow? Gee's? 🤷🏼‍♀️

[Billlewis]

He may be a 'fincuck', which is a combination of a cuckold and a pay pig. You'd be surprised by how many guys love to spoil a beautiful woman whom we know we have no chance whatsoever of having sex with, and many of us, myself included, actually prefer to spoil a beautiful woman who has a boyfriend, and even spoil him, as well.

[Bethany22]

Really? Wow!

[Billlewis]

Oh, sure. There are tons of guys like this. I should know... I'm one of them... lol. With it being Christmas time and all, I'm actively seeking women and couples who are interested in being spoiled a little.

[BoopBoopBeep]

I would never spend any significant amount of money on someone I'd never want a serious relationship with. Buy lunch when we're in between meetings at work, sure. Bring you a coffee when I'm getting mine? Sure, but at some point I'd expect you to reciprocate or I won't do that either.

[RealMarek]

Look up white knighting. The motivation doesn’t have to be sexual, but to feel heroic or fulfilling the role of provider. Maybe it’s that.

[deus_ex_sisyphus]

Probably a difference in values. The value of money, to him, might mean less than what he's trading it for; even if you've judged it by your standards to be worthless.

[ThrillSeeker01]

He just likes the idea of making you happy, even if he considers you friendship material.

[Charliefretz329]

He might just like helping people out. I’ve done this many times with no desire for compensation or return. Lots of guys that I know are very outgoing like that.

[Nikki1989]

Men will do anything if they think it might lead to something.

[virtue2332]

Wrong. Some men

[dolemite58]

yes some men are simps

[virtue2332]

You have to remember all kinds of money is a term that means different things to different people. 1000 bucks could be the same as you spending 10 bucks.

[Joshydavid25]

He's being a Grade 1, level 100, S Tier Simp.. Or there's an off chance he could be a really nice guy.. But the chances are he's probably just letting her take advantage of him..

[love_conquers_lust]

Better than on porn, alcohol, drugs, excessive food.

^^^Unless of course she's blowing money on the same things

[RingOfFire]

Desperation?

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[FenixG45]

Some guys have money to burn and like to be fawned over having it.

[Radiate143]

Because it isn't about the woman. It's about his ego.

[dreamstar72]

Because of the benefits.
First he gets what he wants or needs as he say
Second is very unlikely getting in trouble with the law

[nastyb]

he's likely hoping that she would sleep with her

[AviatorTom]

He's either being very nice or he wants to see how good she is in bed.

[RedInnocent68]

Because he’s less pessimistic about the possibility of a sexual relationship (serious or otherwise) than you.

[Billlewis]

Oh, believe me -- I know I won't be getting any pussy, not when she can just call a stud like you whenever she wants... lol

[magiusX26]

vagina. plain and simple. prostitution (selling sex) is called "the oldest proffession" for a reason.

[JacobJordan]

he thinks he has a chance of being with her.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Most likely, that type just wants sex.

[Unit1]

Beats me. On a side note, there is a reason OnlyFans and Fansly are in business still.

[worldscolide]

No clue. I mean I'm nice to my friends, but not that nice.

[Likes2drive]

Maybe for the moment, it might make him happy doing it right now, enjoy it while it lasts

[Anonymous]

Perhaps wants sex or other things , or some help /friendships anything. Men and women any kind of relationship only work when the man spends money , as every women low key expect that.

[NathanDavis]

because she keeps accepting it?

[Finchie40]

He is probably just trying to get laid , my guess

[Billlewis]

@Finchie40 No, Sir, that's not the goal at all. If I want to get laid, there are plenty of ways that are much easier and less embarrassing... lol;)

[spartan55]

Can women ever just take the win? Nope.

[TonyMetal___86]

Cause he's desperate or a dork...

[Alex-Snow]

Is it because he wants sex with her?

[DextroShade]

He wants to smash.

[Nifrayu]

No idea. I never would.

[DreamLife7]

To get sex until the woman he wants comes along.

[grega239]

Love makes you stupid

[HouseMoat]

Think that's what you want

[TallAnon]

Sex.