Why would a guy keep a woman around for a year if he dosent want a relationship?

[Anonymous]

He has said he dosent want a relationship yet it’s been a year? Why would a guy keep a woman Woman for that long if he dosent want a relationship? A year is a long time? We have had sex loads and loads of times and the sex is amazing but isn’t a year very long to keep someone around for when you don’t want commitment? We speak everyday?

[EvilAngel114]

Because you’re giving yourself to him and you’re convenient. He doesn’t have to commit to you because you’ve already given him what he wants and it’s easier for him to walk away when the next one comes along. If you’re looking more, then you need to be the bigger person and walk away. He’s just in it for the fun and if you feel this way, you’re doing yourself a disservice and going to end up hurt. Trust me if you walk away, his feelings will not be hurt in the least bit. He’s doing just enough to keep you around and you allow it. Start respecting yourself.

[Pinay_ako]

Coz he has no other options … or because you’re always available so he can get the benefits (sex, company) of a relationship without actually being in it - zero commitment! And yes a year is way too long to be at the beck and call of a man who doesn’t really want to be with you.. sorry 😣

[Vegasrunner]

@Pinay_ako If he had no other options he would settle for her. Answers obvious, he's keeping her on the roster for sex and that it.

[Pinay_ako]

@Vegasrunner nah. He won’t settle coz he’s not into her at all. Regardless if he has options or not. And she’s always there. Let him miss you.

[Vegasrunner]

@Pinay_ako He absolutely would. This guy probably has other options so your advice about making him miss you is going to backfire. Those kind of games only work on guys w/ a scarcity mindset

[Pinay_ako]

@Vegasrunner let’s say he doesn’t have any other options at the moment, he could’ve settled with her already if he really was into her. But no, she’s always there for him whenever he needs some booty. She needs to have a life outside him for her to discover other men who will actually settle with her! Why hold your life for one guy who doesn’t want to be with you? Once she’s out there living the life, he might or might not miss her. But who cares? If she’s living it the best way, the right man for her will come along and she will forget why she even wasted her time on one man who was never into her in the first place. She ain’t no go to booty buddy!

[Vegasrunner]

@Pinay_ako I think your response highlights why so many woman are struggling w/ relationships rn.
1. I clearly stated he probably has other options. - Hower u ignored that and made up a completey different scenario to look for a way to provide the leverage to the woman.
2. You're treating sex as a value loaded exchange - You're making it out as if there's an issue because he's getting laid and ignoring the fact that she also is getting laid. No where in her statement does she mention wanting to stop having sex yet your advice is to try to pull sex off the table to trick him into a commitment. This never works because he also has other options and what will most likely happen is that he will spend his time w/ the girl giving him what he wants.
3. She may be go to booty - You're preaching vs reading. She basically explained to you that she is in fact go to booty but you dont like it so now you're providing distructive third party advice. The theory of "the right man" is the philosophy that keeps so many women single. He's not necessarily the wrong man sinply because he doesn't move according to her timeline.

[JamesDiaz11]

I think you've answered your own question: sex.

Keeping you around grants him easy access to sex, and costs him little to nothing (simply contacting you regularly).

I don't know why this is so hard for a woman to understand: women's bargaining chip is sex (they're the ones who grant access to it), men's bargaining chip is a relationship. These chips are suppose to be exchanged, but too often women think that men will just naturally give a relationship over after being freely given sex... this doesn't happen.

[dynamicyandere]

Sounds like he likes the attention and the sex but wants to stop there. If you two aren’t exclusive, perhaps he just wants to enjoy the single life, engage in the casual sex scene, and not settle down yet. But, if he doesn’t want to claim you as his own, he probably doesn’t see you as wifey material—just a f*ck buddy or friend with benefits.

[dynamicyandere]

This doesn’t necessarily mean you aren’t wifey material. It could mean he’s just sorta going through a ho phase. He may not be exclusive with anyone for a while, if ever. Depends on the guy and what his philosophy is on love and relationships.

[ethanallen]

I had a girlfriend in college. I knew I wouldn't marry her but the sex was good. She had a 10 body and whatever position we had sex in, i was totally turned on. Why break up, go without sex for my Senior year just because i didn't want to get married. Women dont ever need to know your intentions. Play along to get along. She kept asking when we were getting married. I told her I needed to get settled in a new job (a total lie).. I broke up with her from 3000 miles away by going out with another woman one week after graduation and after starting a new job. I never looked back. Never regretted having sex with my girlfriend in college that was totally non committed. She had incredible tits, an amazing ass and tiny waist. Time of my life.

[wittymilf]

My daughters current boyfriend was like this. Kept say he didn’t want a relationship and yet was here every day and messaging constantly. It was a full on relationship he just didn’t want to call it that. me he just kept seeing some dudes on the side as ahe assumed that’s what he was wanting… to be with her but keep his options open incase a better option arose.
He got pretty insecure that she might find a better option and changed his mind on wanting to be exclusive.

[AmanoYin]

Someone saying what they want or don't want is called setting up boundaries. It's a sign of a healthy person. It sounds like he wants the fun and isn't ready for something serious, (and that he expects you to respect what he's looking for since he communicated it to you) which is normal. If you want more you need to communicate or move on. It doesn't mean they don't care for you it just means they aren't ready. I wish you the best of luck.

[CallmeTheKnight]

He simply doesn't want one or he's not fit for a relationship yet. Sex doesn't determine how great quality time is, but you may have to get ready and cut your losses sooner than you think.

Next time, let it be known what you want up front rather than give your goodies to him

[Finchie40]

Stop giving him sex , he just likes the convenience of you and stringing you along and keeping his options open to meet someone else , He doesn’t value you he just likes using you

[Kaamraj]

The same reason why girls keep men in the friendzone for months to years. Simply because they can, they maximize their own sexual strategy at the cost of others.

[Fa1con]

Everyone seems to see the answer plain as day. You have loads of great sex and he doesn't need to provide you with anything to keep you around. Why would he choose to not have sex while looking for someone else when he instead could have plenty?

[LazerBean]

To keep his options open and continue having sex until he finds someone he actually wants.

[silkjames]

Obviously he just useing you what makes it messed up if the female knows it why even be with him that's on her just saying and women up make him beg for it lol

[KelleyNice]

Most men are nice. As long as she is not causing problems, men are not inclined to kick a woman out of their house.

[serious]

A player type of guy will usually do something like this.

[Anonymous]

Why would a woman stay if she wants more?

Why wouldn't he? Continuous sex (without having to search or sleep around). I've had women stick around that long also and not want anything more.

[Aaditya-Jain]

Umm probably he isn't sure in it... or he is confused in like and love or fading intrest in her...

[Anonymous]

You answered your own question... the sex is amazing.

Many guys are not interested in serious relationships these days, but they are always interested in sex, especially if it is amazing.

[KimRobert]

Probably for show off and to satisfy his sexual desire… And that’s considered as total wickedness.

[KrakenAttackin]

Why would a man commit to a relationship when he gets all he wants without committing?

[anton_dee]

Sex, money, chore doer, home maker, narcissism, take ur pick...

[dustybiker]

Sex. Lots of easy sex.

[spartan55]

Lmao...😂 😂 For sex... DUH

[jahaims]

For sex and attention