Do u think I should put a photo up to see if people think guys would like me?

[Monalisa77]

I've recently been getting smiles/eye contact with guys so i can't be that bad... But im highly sensitive and get really upset about nasty comments but at the same time i dont want people to lie

[PeteBy]

People who have nothing nice to say are cowards, bullies and have insecurities of their own they are trying to deflect.

It's a life lesson but if anyone says anything nasty, they are just deflecting from their own deficiencies.

That said. If you are sensitive. Put it in private message if it feels like the conversation is genuine.

[Ironic_Method]

What would the goal be? No matter how you look there's always going to be people who insult you. And if you take care of yourself, there will likely be people who find you attractive. Putting pictures of yourself for strangers to ogle just sounds like you need the validation.

[Monalisa77]

I dont think im pretty but I've just been noticed by guys and wondered why

[Ironic_Method]

Just because you don't think you're pretty, doesn't mean others don't!

[Monalisa77]

I rarely get compliments, never been on a date and struggle to make friends.. I didn't think my odds were great till recently

[Ironic_Method]

Sounds like it's not about looks if you struggle with friends! As an introvert myself, making friends is a bit of a chore. And if that's the case, it sounds like it's more your approach to dating rather than your looks that's inhibiting.

[Monalisa77]

Im a nice person, like to have a laugh, honest and loyal but no Matter what i do people just dont want to know. As i say i get more from guys than girls

[Monalisa77]

I didn't really have any approach; guys have just been giving me the vibe. Due to having no friends i dont get invited out to meet guys

[lightbulb27]

do not post online if you cannot handle the social pain. only reason to do so is to exercise that part of you, so you learn to have more strength.

[Monalisa77]

I put pics on other apps just never done it here or asked for opinion

[OddBeMe]

Well, first I would make sure your confidence won’t be shattered by some ill-repute troll. I would imagine you’re average looking as most people are.

But yes if you feel up to it, it can be a confidence boost to see people tell you how pretty you are from a selfie. And there may be some ahole who likes tossing bombs. But that’s life. Seriously gotta get used to that.

[Monalisa77]

Its just cos I've been getting signs from good looking guys that i might not be that bad

[OddBeMe]

Good! That’s evidence you’re above average! Seriously take the compliment. Feel confident and speak to these guys as equals. And then see which one you have more in common with.

[NathanDavis]

maybe, it would be a better idea if you send a direct message to someone you already know here, or trust, get along with...

because some people will be nasty by default and, with the intention to yes.. make you very upset about this

[Monalisa77]

I feel they would just say things to B nice if i did that

[NathanDavis]

well maybe... both are very much a possibility, yes

so maybe, you could "skip" those who are just nasty, and those who you believe are just being nice but not genuinely objective

perhaps, just focus on those in the middle ground

[Monalisa77]

There should be a filter option 😂

[NathanDavis]

one tip... if you actually post a poll or question here about how do you look

you can at least filter out the Anonymous posts, that might help even if a little bit

[JacobJordan]

if you feel comfortable posting a picture you should. if however you will not be able to handle potentially hurtful comments regardless of truth then best to not do that

[DarkWinterNights]

If you can be overly sensitive to negative criticism I wouldn’t. This is a anonymous opinion site, you’re bound to get some hate regardless of how attractive you are.

[hbkfan]

I only put my photo on social media like Snapchat or Facebook I use cartoon or anime pictures for the stuff I don't want people seeing what I look like on

[ThrillSeeker01]

Feel free to put your photo up. 🙂 Why would anyone say mean things?

[Monalisa77]

Cos i get mean comments irl

[ThrillSeeker01]

I don't even understand why anyone would do that to you. I'm sorry

[love_conquers_lust]

I don’t do it outside of DMs. Up to you. Some are braver than others.

[roy_ricky09]

When you hope for the rain, you have to deal with the mud too.

[MrCharlie13]

You could send it via message. at least I'd gladly give you an honest opinion

[KrakenAttackin]

Don't. There are plenty of other places to post. Don't do that to yourself.

[Danny_dan92]

What exactly are you trying to gain?

[Monalisa77]

Confidence in wondering if these soigns might give me hope

[Danny_dan92]

Up to you

[exitseven]

sure, but make sure you smile/

[QuietRunner]

yes you should

[CoolCatMar1]

Yeahh

[guyinterested]

sure

[eagle1951]

sure