I feel like guys only like me for my looks?

[Anonymous]

Please, I'm not trying to be cocky this is a serious question. So I'm in highschool and I don't have too much experience with boys. I've had one relationship and a couple "things". I am a pretty introverted person and can be shy at first. I hate taking initiative and I don't flirt. I'm not insecure, nor am I very confident. I'm not loud all the time and I don't drink or party and I hang out with the "smart" crowd. Basically, it takes a while for me to come out of my shell. My boyfriend jsut dated me to get physical, then he got bored. Then the guys I've been on dates with find me hot and I feel like they don't really prefer my shy at first personality and would rather have a partier but me being attractive is their only motivation. I attract guys with girlfriends, partiers and smokers, jerks and they all like me "because I'm hot". I do have guy friends who tell me how great I am and that I have a good personality but I'm just not sure. So my question is, does this kind of "date because she's hot" mindset appear a lot more in highschool relationships? Or do I have a personality flaw or something because guys focus more on my looks? I want a guy who actually likes me for my personality with my looks being a plus!

[Theguyoverthere]

Some key things you can do are these.

Wear clothing that covers up your figure as much as possible. This will make you seem a lot more genuine, nice and so on and cover up your rack size and butt so guys can't get motivated to approach you based on those things.

Stick with guys you have a common interest with. If you're into any extra activities or clubs in schools, try to meet guys there. You're not asking them out on dates, you're just participating in a club looking for a partner to work on something with. Those can turn into something more overtime and you'll both know each other based on personality then.

If they talk about being physical early on, just skip over them if you don't want that. Guys tend to rush into the sexual stuff fast when that's their motivation. If they're texting and talking to you about sex in general, that's what they're going for.

Also understand that physical attraction is needed to a certain degree. If a guy tells you you're pretty and leaves it at that, just take it as a compliment.

[Scoopie]

Sounds like you're just attracting the wrong crowd. You have two options:

- change nothing, and wait for those guys to come to you, or

- start approaching guys that YOU like yourself. Sure, not every guy you approach will be into you, but at least you'll be fishing in the pond of your preference.

So it's simple, stop worrying whether somethings wrong with you (because it's not) or whatever the reason may be and take faith into your own hand!

I can't tell anything about your personality though, since I don't know you one single bit.

[jeunnedarc]

I totally know where you're coming from. A lot of guys go after me because they think that the fact I'm from France is really hot (I still sometimes have an accent) and because of my hair. Then thy talk to me and realize that I'm a huge weirdo, but they stick with me anyway. I think thy once you get out of high school you'll find guys that are less shallow, and that really love your personality as well as your looks. We got this ;)

[redtide]

American men like foreign women, the same reason American women do. When it comes down to it, girls and guys, are practically the same. It's just the one has a D and the other has a V

[arashmenalagha]

I can totally relate with you!

[carelessxwhisper]

Honestly, I think there are always going to be people who date people mostly for their looks. I don't think it's a high school thing. I mean, look at trophy wives. The main reason a man is with them is for their looks. I've had guys want to be with me for my looks, but I am able to tell more now who really wants to be with me for the whole me and not just for my looks.

[sammy_31]

Well it's high school, boy and girls are (mostly) about looks, if he/she is hot or whatever. Just don't think it's just for you looks, try to not be so shy and really let your personality show.

[JohnnySS]

boys will only be interested in looks. men see a woman for the way she looks and her personality traits. looks are important. anyone who says differently is a liar. your physical makeup is WHO you are down to your cells, but it isn't only who you are because who you are is also who you THINK you are. in my opinion find a guy who is also interested in your personality. you are more likely to find him post-high-school. and post-university or at a higher age level.

there is nothing wrong with you.

personally, I love a pretty girl/woman, I don't care that much about her personality unless we can't get along. I also appreciate her personality along with her looks.

[redtide]

It is scientifically proven that men want hot women because it produces hot offspring and we want those offspring to produce more offspring. It seems like you don't like that you feel like you could be boring and or uninteresting

[Anonymous]

Guys will always find you hot and want you for that reason. Just don't have sex with a guy for at least a few months until he proves he likes you for u.

[Whitechocolate1001]

Let me get this straight. Your complaining about guys checking you out because of your looks? But if they didn't guys would be labeled shallow?

[Anonymous]

Just weed out the bad ones and pay attention to the polite guys

[MoneyBeets]

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