Is this strange?

[Anonymous]

My partner asked me to go to a music concert with him but I’m already out with my dad that evening (he bought me a ticket for Christmas to a Theater show).
My partner said it was ok and that he would go alone… I found that really strange. Why would he want to go alone? He’s booked the ticket and everything.

[DaveJord]

I would say obviously, he does not want to go alone. He wants to go with you. So, he thought this would be a grand and romantic gesture, and he now feels let down, disappointed and discouraged.

Now that is not your fault honestly. He should have asked you first, everyone knows to confirm with someone before just going out and making a decision like that then putting money on it.

If you have plans that can be moved with your dad, then think about it. If you cannot move those plans, or you do not want to move them... well he created this situation not you.

But I assure you of this, if he can find someone else, he will before going alone.

[Asker]

Oh I don’t think I was clear… he booked them IN SPITE of me telling him I wasn’t free that night. So we were looking at shoes and he said that one looked good and I said ah I think that’s the one night I can’t do because of what my dad booked for us and the. my he went ahead and booked for himself. I said why not take your brother or your own dad to him but he just said he was fine to go alone 🤷🏼‍♀️

[DaveJord]

Oh yeah, so if you told him before hand and he did it anyway... hell no. If you changed your plans that would be the wrong message to send. Simple fact is this. You told him how you felt about that day. He ignored your feelings and did anyway.

So, to answer your question now that it is clear to me. YES, that is strange.

As to why he would do that, honestly I have no idea. I have done a lot of stupid things when comes to women. Now be it right or wrong, I can tell you what my though process was. But whenever I have done something without discussing it first with said woman, or whenever I did it in spite of what said women said to me about it... that's all on me and it never turned out well. So, most guys learn to not do that mistake. And how do most guys learn this shit... from women.

If you change your mind, then you Litteral sending the message that his feelings hold more value than yours. Like you are rewarding him for bad behavior.

So let me honest. I honestly have no idea, but I am spit balling here. Devil's advocate. He saw this thing, and dream up some thing in head, were he really wanted to do this thing for you. And even though you said what you said, he assumed you would change your mind. I mean this something every immature guy has done at some point in his life, before he learned better. Most of use do not get out of high school before learining this. Now on some level you have to acknowledge that it is really nice and sweet of him. Because he wants to do this thing for you.

But at the same time... he needs to respect your boundaries. And you have a greater responsibility to maintain those boundaries.

[Asker]

I think you are completely right and I thank you for your opinion. I will not be changing my plans

[ChicoFromThe305]

He's going alone cause he wasted money on the tickets, he's gonna use at least one but maybe he will invite a friend or something lol

[Asker]

He didn’t buy them until I told him I couldn’t go that date so he said he’ll go alone anyways

[ChicoFromThe305]

Oh maybe he wants to go foreal

[ThrillSeeker01]

Just ask him about it.