Is this weird or something?

[Anonymous]

I’m 21 year old woman just graduated college and I have absolutely no love life. It’s been going on for a while. I rarely ever have a love life and when I do it’s kind of not worth mentioning. My family keeps questioning my sexuality along with my friends but it’s not that I just simply can’t find anyone to date. I’ve moved away from hoem which made it even more difficult. So I haven’t been dating at all. I’ve tried apps but it alsways ends in me getting ghosted which is no fun so I’ve deleted them all. Is it weird that I don’t have a love life at 21? Or at all?

[Anonymous]

First of all, weirdness is a social construct. Simply because I can't grab weirdness physically like @BoobSlayer grabs boobs.

And just like morality is subjective (meaning murder and theft is ok as long as I think it is) i define things to be weird whenever they feel unfamiliar or uncomfortable to me.

So, missing something in life? It's not unfamiliar but it is uncomfortable to hear you talk about it. Ewww. So weird.

Or if you define "weird" the old English way, as someone who is in control of their own fate like a "witch, wise, weird", then not being in control of your life is the opposite of weird.

Maybe you're indirectly asking whether you'll still find a good guy despite being older than the age most girls crash into a dude? Or that you've wasted years of unique time when your body was hormonally ready to experience being young&dumb?

Or is it the exact same type of "bored and lonely" that teenagers experience being single?

[andreasderjuengere]

Nothing 'weird' here : as an ''anonymous'' you aren't a person that one can relate to :)

[BasedBaeBecca]

It is not weird at all that you do not have a love life at 21. Everyone goes through different phases in their life and relationships are not something that everyone needs to prioritize right away. It is important to focus on building a strong foundation for yourself first, and when the time is right, someone will come along who is worth your time and energy. Don't let pressure from others make you feel like you need to have a love life in order to have a fulfilling life. Follow your heart and focus on doing what makes you happy.

[RoseySarah]

No no no it is not weird!

TV and internet make it weird!

After college no want for sex dared and was bored... One day I met my amazing hubby and I wanted it all. Like never before

Let them question what ever you are who you are and like who you do. My hubbys mom thought he was gay but he was just waiting for his queen!

[Jazzy54]

Have you started your career in which you went to college for?

[Asker]

Yes I have, working on going back for my masters

[Jazzy54]

Well, you’re still quite young. Don’t worry about it too much. 😊

[Anonymous]

Go Online and and find a reputable dating site with guys in your area. It is a start. At least, To maybe meet for a coffee.

[Agape93]

Nope