Is it weird to get a girl I like a gift after actually talking to her for a couple of days?

[Anonymous]

I am thinking of getting her a gift for a girl from work on black Friday. But, I don't want to be seen as weird or something.

[anonanonanonomys]

Don't listen to those dudes. It would be weird if it was something large. But get her something small like a coffee. If she's into you she'll think it's sweet and she'll feel special that you thought of her.

[anonanonanonomys]

Like bring her a coffee to work*

[Asker]

Thank you. I was thinking of getting her a nice bracelet or necklace. Nothing crazy expensive but enough to show I care. But you said, if she's into me she'll think it's sweet. What if she isn't into me? Would she find me weird?

[anonanonanonomys]

If she is not into you she will obviously get the message that you are. If she's a good person she will level with you say she appreciated the gesture but she's not looking for anything romantic just now.

[Asker]

Ohhh I see ok. I just don't want to be seen as like desperate anything. I kinda wanna get the point across that I like her and I'm not a shy person to the extreme level

[OlderAndWiser]

If you have not even had a first date, it would seem creepy and desperate.

[Asker]

sheesh luckily I asked before going through lol. Like I like her but am not desperate for a girlfriend. I did make cookies the other day and gave her one before everyone else and talked to her a little. She didn't seem weirded out or anything. But I was going to get her a bracelet or something.

[OlderAndWiser]

No! Don't do it!

[Guy13]

Yes it is unless it is in passing and something like a dessert you can share etc

[Asker]

Ohh i see ok thanks for telling me. In my head, it sounded like a nice thing to do. But to her, she might think something completely different.

[Guy13]

It is nice if it does not look like a 🎁. Shared with me is often more emotional than nought for me. To share something that you personally enjoy…”your thing” is a bigger 🎁 .

Most of the time…. 🤷🏻‍♂️

[Asker]

Ohh i see so like something I actually enjoy. So i like football and basketball so a jersey for example.

[Guy13]

No. It is not about you.