I first started talking to a girl on an anonymous app, mainly about tea. Then she said we should add each other on Instagram already. We did, we both have private profiles. Been almost 2 months since adding her there, and maybe 4-6 months or more before that. Not really sure how she thinks/feels, she says she enjoys our conversation, and I do too. After Instagram exchange, she implied meeting me, saying she prefers meeting at this place than the other. When the day came, she just said I don't want to meet someone I just met online. I said sure right away. As it didn't really matter to me. Though I would like to meet her so to know her better, like some proper/long/deep conversation. Now I feel like getting her a gift. She studied Art, but now teaches English. I thought either an online course for teachers which I personally took, and I'm sure she'll greatly benefit from, or a book about body language.
Now I don't know, would such gifts sound too serious đ ? So are such gifts okay, and would it be normal to give her a gift anyway, or does it sound like I want something from her.. I don't know I feel there has to be an introduction/reason she sees why I did so. Now my reason is,, I just feel like so. I want to express my liking and acceptence of her in this way.
I am a litte confused as at a point I initated sharing some of my top Ambient albums with her. Within a day or two, she put a pic of her face in a story, that story was her 1st only to close friends with me, with a song "You showed me what to do, exactly what you do, how I fell in love with you" đ¤¨đ. She doesn't have a pic of her face in any of her posts. Now, I don't want to be stupid or come unsolicitedly. So I thought maybe to measure things, by a gift from me, to kind of see how would she react. Does it sound okay?
Now I don't know, would such gifts sound too serious đ ? So are such gifts okay, and would it be normal to give her a gift anyway, or does it sound like I want something from her.. I don't know I feel there has to be an introduction/reason she sees why I did so. Now my reason is,, I just feel like so. I want to express my liking and acceptence of her in this way.
I am a litte confused as at a point I initated sharing some of my top Ambient albums with her. Within a day or two, she put a pic of her face in a story, that story was her 1st only to close friends with me, with a song "You showed me what to do, exactly what you do, how I fell in love with you" đ¤¨đ. She doesn't have a pic of her face in any of her posts. Now, I don't want to be stupid or come unsolicitedly. So I thought maybe to measure things, by a gift from me, to kind of see how would she react. Does it sound okay?
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I wouldnât recommend it. If she wants to build a true connection, she should be willing to meet in person at a public place. If she canât put enough trust into you to do that, then you shouldnât put that much trust into her. You donât know her intentions and you shouldnât be willing to buy someoneâs love and trust.
Hmm, definitely sounds like so even if I don't actually mean it. So, if this comes unsolicited as you say, then I'll just refrian.
Have you asked her what kind of gift she'd like? I've served numerous women and their boyfriends as an online pay pig, and I can honestly tell you that nothing else compares to the feeling of buying gifts for a woman whom you know you'll never be able to have sex with. If she has a boyfriend, maybe she'd like you to buy him something. I love buying shoes for a woman's boyfriend or husband.
I say no gift. She's hesitant about you. Just take it slow and be patient. âşď¸
Sure. I don't know since when they took away the 'like' button đ
So, *like*
Weird!
Maybe you guys can video chat before meeting in person?
No worries. There are other ways to measure or apply pressure than a gift. Just wanted to know if a gift would go wrong or not. thanks for that anyway.
The problem with giving a gift too soon is that it can come off as manipulative or clingy (simpy).
I think it's better to play on the safer side.
I do think those are very thoughtful gifts though. I would just wait a little bit longer, until you guys are closer.
Good luck âşď¸