Why whenever I start dating a guy he wants to change 🤣?

[Anonymous]

I'm free, I'm outgoing... I like a little bit (sometimes a lot) of alcohol and a little bit of cocaine... so I pick guys that do the same thing. Like half of my boyfriends when we met we got drunk and high and then when we start dating he says I need to quit everything. 🤣🤣🤣🤣 Quit and nag me to quit. One went to rehab, one started going to church, one made a tattoo of me with vampire teeth dressed like a nun.

Now I met this guy like a month ago, he is fun, he is kind and generous, and I think I might start dating him. And then last night we were chatting and he told me he needs to quit everything 🤣😂 Like why does every guy want to change when he meets me?

[Screenwriter]

Maybe they're all at the age when they discover that getting drunk and high on coke are not exactly healthy and productive things to be doing regularly.

They sort of get in the way of work, relationships, regular exercise and achievement.

[Asker]

But why don't they realize it without meeting me 🤣

[Screenwriter]

No idea. You might ask them.

[IslaTheWitch]

They realized something you still don't. They probably realized it because of your behaviour when you were under the influence.

For your own good, it would be good if you realize it also... But no one can force you.

[NathanDavis]

because heavy drug use and heavy use of drugs are terrible... so why wouldn't they want it, to quit that stuff...

[Asker]

Yeah but I pick this guy because I wanna do that once in a while and suddenly he decides to quit completely 🤣

[NathanDavis]

so you don't want to quit heavy drugs use yourself?

[Asker]

With my friend we were doing this every day while we were friends, first time we had sex he said we won't drink or do drugs anymore. And I didn't want to change so I ended it with him but he really quit it's been a year.

[Asker]

I don't do it every day anymore but I like to do it like once a month. I pick a guy similar to me on purpose and then suddenly that bad boy wants to change. 😅🤣😅🤣

[NathanDavis]

well... cocaine users, not sure they can be the more reliable people... lol

or predictable

[Asker]

😂😂😂😂 I don't want to do it every day but for example my last boyfriend didn't do it and I only did it 2 times during our 6 months relationship and he was so annoying nagging me so much about it

[NathanDavis]

I would have wanted for you to quit drugs... lol

but I am not really into trying to change people

[Asker]

Yeah but I pick a person who does the same thing on purpose and suddenly we need to change 🤣🤣🤣 Like it's the thing that connected us in the first place. 😅

[NathanDavis]

I see... well, stay safe

[Danny_dan92]

Change what?

[Asker]

His habits

[Danny_dan92]

Ask him