Why do guys change?

[Chandra20]

Why do some guys change after the female had there baby I want to know wht makes them become abusive to?

[dynamicyandere]

I’d say it’s 2 things.


1. True colors. If someone is putting up a front, they can only maintain that for so long. Eventually, it’s going to be draining to keep putting up that front, and you’ll eventually see their true colors. A lot of guys and girls put up a front to get the partner they want, unfortunately. It’s hard to get to know someone if they only tell you what you want to hear and only show you what you want to see. That’s unsustainable and the facade will eventually break.


2. They aren’t grounded in their identity, who they are, and their values. Someone with a strong set of principles, or a clear set of values, or a code that they live by, will be much more consistent with how they go throughout life and make their decisions. Many people don’t have this, and it makes them easily change overtime. Having a clear idea of who you want to be and what you stand for is super important. And, it gives YOU the power to change your life instead of giving life the power to change YOU.

[Guy13]

I have never heard of this kind of thing but i am sorry to hear that has happened to you. At the very least it sounds like regret or an unhappiness with who he is being projected upon another. If you safety and life feel threatened i assume you know how to hadle this situation.

Resources for abusive situations are online. Lots of 800 and 888 numbers. This would be my first stop for professional advice and insights. It seems like you need this information badly. Take care.

[UniquelyBasic]

Maybe they never changed but just showed you who they really are.

[Chandra20]

Yea tht does make sense

[Emanon25]

It could be that your love was for him only and after having a baby that love moved to the baby

[Chandra20]

Some guys don’t really show there true colors until a baby comes in 😢

[Emanon25]

True.

[Summeroflove]

Not sure what you’re getting at but okay.

[Saamee]

Do you know difference between male and shemale?

[Chandra20]

Lol of course

[Saamee]

I think u understand what I mean to say