Do guys usually stutter and get shy around women they find above average and very pretty?

[Reem12345reem]

[Anonymous]

Depends on their age, experience and to a limited extent their natural ability. At your age this is going to be extremely common. Also most 16 year old girls are way beyond most 16 year old boys in emotional maturity. This is when the gap is the most wide on that.

However I do believe a small percentage of young men have an innate self control around attractive girls. I was never one of them so I just ignored the prettiest girls in HS.

I later found out in my freshman year in college that one of the hottest girls in my old HS secretly had a huge crush on me.

I remembered her quite well but I just thought she was way too out of my league and didn’t try. I thought she was just smiling and saying hello as some sort of cruel setup i. e. if I made a move would mock me over it. So didn’t want to give her that satisfaction.

So back then I just barely said hello back and ignored her. I was also careful not stare at her too long back then too. She probably was turned on by me being “a challenge” to her.

[Monalisa77]

I do this as im worried theyre out to use me or im reading too much into it which people then keep telling me i was, but i honestly dont believe i was and they can't even come up with decent explanation why they behave in certain ways

[Opinion Owner]

@Monalisa77 well whether women like it or not it’s now increasingly on them to step up their game. You can thank the #metoo crowd for scaring the hell out of men.

[Monalisa77]

Well im even more surprised why a dr would literally be gorping/touching at a vulnerable girl...

[Monalisa77]

I mean as in staring, as thats how intense it felt like

[Opinion Owner]

@Monalisa77 are you talking about Larry Nassar?

That guy is the scum of the earth and got what he had coming to him. Most men HATE men who do that shit even more then women do. Really hate it. Why do you think pedos like him get beat up in prison? And men hated those kind of men long before metoo existed.

But there is a large swathe of otherwise decent men who are paranoid af around women now out of fear of being labeled “a creep”. If the guy is socially awkward it makes this paranoia 100% worse. Ironically that very paranoia actually validates women’s fears even further.

So now many guys are just giving up. But ironically the true scumbags will NEVER give up unless they get caught. But thoughtful guys are much less inclined to take a risk.

Most women have zero comprehension what it’s like to be an otherwise decent guy who is afraid of making a move out of paranoia. They have no idea what a mind f*ck it is for them. They are told to “man up” and be confident. But they are also told they have to be very sensitive to how the woman “might feel”’.

This was a problem for lots of men long before metoo. Now it’s so bad that men are just quitting outright.

[Monalisa77]

haha no its someone i know who had been flirting with me. my mum thought what he did was wrong but all he did was stroke my hand and stare a bit lol (i told her he just touched it i didn't say the stroking cos i find that personal) but all the bad men is why im so wary

[Monalisa77]

i didn't mean it in the form of sense that he touched me innapropriately, but the staring just made me wary/nervous that that was what he precisely wanted to do lol (or have a shag either way)

[Opinion Owner]

@Monalisa77 how old where you when this happened?

[Monalisa77]

same as i am now. happened in aug/September

[Monalisa77]

he isn't my dr just to be clear. just one i know

[Monalisa77]

But then he didn't know this, most people think im in my 20s

[Opinion Owner]

@Monalisa77 I’m still confused. So an adult man did this to an adult woman. Under what context if he “isn’t your doctor”.

If you knew this guy in a profesional setting that was inappropriate but you are also a grown adult. You got agency to speak up if you didn’t like it. Why didn’t you?

If this was in a casual setting then I don’t feel sorry for you at all tbh. You have full agency to speak up in that situation. It’s not like he grabbed your breasts out of nowhere and/or said something like “let’s f*ck!” or something stupid.

He had no idea you didn’t like him touching your hand and staring you because you failed to communicate with him. He wasn’t able to read your mind so QUIT expecting him too.

But again if this happened in a professional setting that’s a different story. It wasn’t criminal but it was inappropriate.

[Monalisa77]

we play cards. he's sort of related to my cousins , he only started going in April i didn't have a clue who he was till he did that with my hand. i even asked my cousin what his name was lol

i didn't think he did anything wrong. i have no reason for anyone to feel sorry for me. my mum thought he did something wrong but i dont. it was a natural thing to do so i dont get why she suddenly thought that or why anyone thinks he didn't do it or did it on purpose etc

[Monalisa77]

i did like it, but the staring made me nervous/wary, I've not seen him since then and i dont liek going round accusing people and ruining their life, its exactly what my ex wife has done to my brother

[Opinion Owner]

@Monalisa77 alright I honestly he did not intentionally did anything wrong. And you are absolutely right about it being a very bad idea to accuse men about behavior that makes them just “feel uncomfortable”

Actual full on sexual assault is a different story. But you (and your wife) should know better to judge men on their exact actions vs. judging them on “how it made you feel”. Action wise that guy didn’t (knowingly) do anything wrong and I bet he would feel horrible if he actually knew it made you feel uncomfortable. But again he’s not a mind reader.

Also I don’t know what’s wrong with your mum. She’s protective because your her daughter but she’s also much more experienced. She should know right from wrong. She should know incident vs. accident. She should know how most men really are. But I guess she doesn’t.

[Monalisa77]

She didn't date many men before she married my dad. She lets my dad treat her like crap, im never gonna let a man treat me the way he does

Woops, i meant my brothers ex wife. Dunno how i missed that

Something really weird went down, his brothers page went down but he can still see my stories and he stopped at a pic i put up last night, his mate then saw them and stopped at the same pic, his mate went back and viewed the rest.

[Monalisa77]

Not sure what u mean by accident, i dont think his touching was accident either, felt more like comforting after hed beaten me, he wanted me to do the same to him after id beaten him but i didn't realise till later

[Monalisa77]

I did kinda look nervous, i didn't respond to his flirting /staring n i actually walked away from him at 1 pt, my actions didn't make it seem like i was interested

[veganrogue]

In my early teens I was tragic with girls. I was obsessed with sex from a young age and with no experience, I was highly intimidated by the opposite sex, because I was so wound up by them, I couldn't relax and be myself.

When I started as a professional photo assistant for fashion photographers in NYC, I went from a loser that couldn't say hello to a girl without putting my foot in my mouth to being in the same room as supermodels, quite literally overnight.

You'd sit and eat meals with these girls, go out to night clubs and dance with these girls when we were all on location, and eventually hanging out with beautiful girls was my 'normal'. I became much more relaxed, because in this environment I was just doing my job and not 'trying' to talk to them or get their phone numbers.

It's not like an revelatory moment, but you realize that beauty is subjective and one man's 'hot' is another man's 'meh'.

[veganrogue]

@Reem12345reem Thanks for the MHO!

[Anonymous]

There is this guy I know in my friend group that my best friend is convinced he likes me. When ever we are alone or he stops by my work or house he always tends to stare at me for at least 2-3 minutes. I don't find it weird because he's my mailman. Lol Last party he came into the kitchen specifically to have a little chat. There were other people in the kitchen and he picked me to talk with. I'm not that interesting or utterly gorgeous but I think he's taken a liking to spending time with me. I accept him for being socially awkward, shy and not being able to read a room. He's really opened up lately and I'm proud of him for that.

[constantine15]

Do you like him?

[Opinion Owner]

I am fond of him.

[constantine15]

Would you be interested in forming a relationship with him?

[Opinion Owner]

I think maybe spending more time with him would be good so I can get to know him.

[constantine15]

Do you find him attractive?

[Opinion Owner]

I didn't at first but now I'm starting to find him attractive.

[constantine15]

You should ask him on a date!

[Opinion Owner]

I will consider it. :)

[Guccigabbana18]

If they're REALLY pretty (like drop dead gorgeous), then they might. Or if they have a crush on you. I've done this to guys if I really fancied them so I don't see why guys would be any different.

[smne35]

Yes yes and damn yes, hate when I do that don't stutter but just get tongue tied just can't put two intelligent sentence together, and that's really strange because I don't have a issue with carrying a conversation, but that one female that is way up on the charts Murphy's law kicks in and if you don't compose yourself quickly you now it, I guess it's because you just try too hard to come off as perfect, I like to tell jokes to break the Ice, relax the atmosphere, i, have a real good sense of humor, but some women just never developed one or don't know it exist, but yeah behaving in that goofy zone bc can leave you feeling 3 inches tall, you seen the cartoon where the main character just messes up and being reminded that he did starts to shrink from embarrassment the streets what I mean, 3 inch tall

[HawkPerception]

This happens a lot when guys are younger and have no experience with women. I myself asked a girl to meet me behind school when I was in high school to tell her I liked her, and could barely get the words out. Ended up making an idiot of myself and regretted ever doing things that way. Many guys have no idea how to talk with girls when they're young.

[Leapfrog00]

I do that all the time. The other day this cute girl started talking to me and eventually I started mumbling, and fumbled my words. I was doing research one day for this book I wrote about 5 people who always had trouble facing their fears and they die and return to earth to learn how to face them, and I found this article on the most common fears and fear of the opposite sex is in the top 10. Definitely a common one!

[modeunae]

The average man-- ja. Probably. But experienced men and men who know how to control themselves won't have too much of a problem with stuttering and all that. Especially experienced men.

[molonski2]

I would have possibly done this when I was VERY young , like your age , but with vast experience all that changes , its just a starting out thing , massive gap since I was ever like that , don't care who the person ( thinks ) they are , because who makes the decision on " exceedingly attractive " ? Its in the eye of the beholder , not the individual themselves.

[Oliverlogan263]

Didiidd

[Xoirwinkan]

Really depends, some guys could be shy with everyone new, some with all girls, and some don't get nervous at all. But in general guys do get a bit nervous around a really beautiful girl. Especially if you want to ask her out. I think that's why the 9/10 girls sometimes get fewer dates. A lot of guys are conscious about girls 'being out of their league'.

[Wise4myage]

Yes, that does happen, but its actually a compliment in a way.

[Reem12345reem]

if a guy doesn't get shy does it mean the girl is average?

[Wise4myage]

No, not necessarily.

[Cutegirl06]

That's very true 👍

[Wise4myage]

@Cutegirl06 Thanks!

[Cutegirl06]

You're welcome 😊

[Anonymous]

Yes and no. I'd say it has more to do with a guys experience with women and his warped perspective due to that inexperience.

When I was your age i'g get nervous at the thought of even average girls. But now I've talked to so many women that really no woman impresses me to that point.

[ManOnFire]

When I was a teenager, sure. As a grown man who's had some experience and been around lots of females, women just don't have that kind of power over me like that anymore.

[KrakenAttackin]

@ManOnFire. Bam! What he said.

[glennos89]

I'm do and it totally sucks. My mind completely freezes instantly or shuts down completely. I really hate when that happens 😮‍💨

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Yes, I get real shy when talking to a woman, and she seems to come off to me as having a great personality that means the most to me.

[AmandaYVR]

Social anxiety isn't based solely or mainly on attraction to the other. It can be exacerbated by it, though.

[CalmUntilAbused]

What do we mean by "pretty"? If it's about a ton of make-up, I'm more inclined to frown instead. If it's about natural beauty, I might be a bit shy and stuttering, especially if the woman in question is shy, as well.

[mrcurious98]

I imagine some people might stutter I don't stutter when I meet someone attractive unless I noticed that I have a huge bulge in my pants when I look down then I might start to stutter LOL

[Flatmanlewis]

It sure can happen. Tends to happen when they are younger or lack confidence though.

[DJB72]

Less now than 35 years ago, but yes. Some of us are very shy around girls we're really attracted to...

[Starrrboy]

Depends on the the guy... some people get too nervous around their crush / someone they're attracted to.. and some people actually get too comfortable !..

[magiusX26]

let me help you. "do guys usually stutter and get shy around women they find attractive (even remotely) ?"

yes, quite often.

[patrick994]

Yes definitely, when you are in front of someone very attractive you tend to want to make the best impression possible.

[DaBiggestBird]

Not me, The D Big Mac, Da Biggest Bird. I run a fast diagnostic admiring her beauty and move on to acting like a human being. Nowadays people act less like people than actual A. I bots.

[YourSong]

Yes, but he can also just be a stutter or an anxious person

[boy_with_panties]

It depends on the situation, but as a rule I think it is so.

[syncheart]

I don't stutter, but I feel shaky in my legs. And I feel shy, but sometimes these feelings combined make me want to talk like crazy.

[Anonymous]

No. A nervous guy is nervous. A confident guy is not. A confident guy doesn't become nervous just because he's talking to you.

[Radiate143]

If they are horny yeah they get a little fumbly.

[CaptainSmartass]

Yeah. Its like you lose any confidence you had, and you're afraid of being rejected.

Simples...

[Lonen]

I do at least, not sure about other guys

[Reem12345reem]

are u an intorvert or it's just bc she's very pretty?

[Lonen]

Both I think

[WonderingManII]

It kinda depends on the guy, but yes, that can happen.

[ethansf]

It depends on their confidence. I used to, but now I have the confidence to talk to anyone and make a move.

[Tomisworthless]

No I treat women the way they treat me. Cold, distant, no communication and no eye contact

[Pohjolan]

Some do while they are still somewhat immature.

[Anonymous]

One day I saw a woman's boobs and forgot to speak for like 30 seconds. She was shocked.

[Sirenboobzilla]

Absolutely. It's cute

[strateguy632]

hi my sam is name. :D

[Anonymous]

Some guys do that around anyone.

[LiamJHayden]

I don't but I've seen it happen.

[Sparkie460]

It might happen to some guys

[Likes2drive]

Yes, it still happens to me

[Cutegirl06]

Yes they do! They get nervous.

[strateguy632]

that happened to me

[LunarEclipse433]

Sometimes I trip over my tongue

[Avicenna]

Usually? No, but it's not unheard of.

[Kingofkings1992]

Maybe in your age group

[RedInnocent68]

Some guys, that have stuttering problems.

[JHAYES317]

No, ironically I stutter less…

[Nifrayu]

Lol no. That's just in the movies.

[boobliker]

most will at some point

[DreamLife7]

If you're ugly they will stutter

[FenixG45]

Ummm. Could be. I get shy and stupid.

[Jmmmfi4]

FOR SURE

[Iron_Man]

Not really

[azgınteke]

sometimes but not me

[butterly248]

Some do yeah

[dudeinohio]

Sometimes

[Jamie05rhs]

Yes.

[In_Trance]

No not really

[krin_m]

I don't!

[Rc2020]

Yes indeed 👍