How come I don’t need anything?

[Anonymous]

Men always tell me that I don’t need anything. They even say that I don’t need affection or simple efforts like hand holding. Why? Yet I watch them do it with other women. They say that I’m different and don’t need anything like literal walk in the park dates and that other doing dinner dates, flowers, hugs, etc for other girls makes sense because they “act like they need it” but to do it for me is different because when I ask I’m “just asking for shit” Why?

[Jamie05rhs]

That's called gaslighting. He doesn't have any regard for you at all whatsoever. You aren't important to him. And he's trying to justify the horrible way that he is treating you.

[Asker]

And what’s “acting like you need things?”
Thanks.

[Jamie05rhs]

I'm not sure. Maybe they are saying something to indicate that?

[Jamie05rhs]

Thanks for the MHO.

[slatyb]

They are intimidated by your independence. Date a man who would rather be wanted than needed.

[KrakenAttackin]

When do men say "you don't need" these things?

[Asker]

When I ask for a hug or to go to the highlife park for a walk. When I asked to walked home and have my hand held. When I asked to pay to take us to a museum date because he didn’t want to spend. $10 Popeyes for each of us that I was going to buy. Diner dates that I was going to buy. When they get mad about money out of nowhere even though I purposely choose cheap or free things things. One time I asked just for a visit so he can come over and we can have sex and then he just got mad about money out of nowhere. I never even talked about money.

[Asker]

*highline park

[Asker]

Small things like a forehead kiss. They said I’m only asking for it because I’m pretty and think men should just be giving me niceness.

[sentinustm]

If it exists, it exists, otherwise it does not exist.

[Anonymous]

You are talking to the wrong guys.

[Anonymous]

Kick them to the curb