Do guys like when girls fight for the check?

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Rab1901 · Accepted Answer

If the girl does it sincerely, what's not to like? If she's just doing it for show, what's to like?

I once had a girl pay for my dinner when I went to the bathroom. It was our first meal together. I went to pay for the dinner right after without letting her know, and the waiter said that it was already paid for. I really appreciated it, and afterwards, I thought about it more, and it made me feel like she really liked me, and she really did. She lives 5000 miles away and was only nearby for a work trip. It has been about 2 years since I last saw her, but I will never forget her.

If she's making less than I am, I will appreciate it even more. If she's making equal to or more than I am but still doesn't offer to pay, then I'm out. It doesn't have anything to do with the fact that I'm spending my money. It's about the gesture. Girls want to know if a guy likes him. Do you think guys don't want the same?

Some girls just want to keep their money cuz they know some guys will be happy to pay for her. Other girls don't want to let guys know when she likes him because she will come off as too easy. But if that's what a guy thinks of you for paying buying him food, then he's not worth your time, and you'll figure it out early. But if you're someone who thinks you're too good to buy a guy food and are just acting like you will buy, then it's best to not buy. Good guys value sincerity and honesty. If you disagree, you hang around bad guys. If you prefer bad guys who will manipulate you, manipulate him and I'm sure you can win him over.

wysiwyg2525 · Accepted Answer

You should have to fight for the Cheatham you should want to pay for it or do a common ground pay half. This so called rule that a guy should pay for everything is wrong. It's a huge turn on when a woman offers and really does pay not just offer and sit back know the guy is going to pay. Don't gust offer to do it take action and do it.

wolfcat87 · Accepted Answer

First, everyone likes free stuff. So, I doubt many men are going to complain.

Second, any woman doing that is setting the tone for any future interactions and lowering the bar for the entire relationship. It's shooting herself in the foot.

It's like women who chase after men who offer the bare minimum while offering to do everything for the man... It's a behavior more common in women who are desperate, have low self esteem, and/or who are very feminist on a different note.

Men with traditional values, who are most likely to care for and value women, may appreciate the free meal but they won't respect the woman for it. So, she'll end up distancing those men and attracting whoever is left. Men who don't want to care for women and are more self centered. Men who don't want to invest in a woman.

On the other hand, men who enjoy caring for women want to feel needed. Providing food and money allows them to feel necessary.

wiltingrosepetal · Accepted Answer

'Fighting' is a strong word.

Men like it when they're respected on a date, instead of being seen as the wallet who'll pay for everything out of tradition. A woman saying she's willing to pay her share shows she's going to take charge her life, and won't be expecting hand-outs based on her gender. But alternatively, if she actually argues over who's paying for what, that'll sour the date. If he wants to be nice, let him 🤷‍♀️

HawkPerception · Answer

I truly respect a girl that pays for her food. It shows she values my time as much as hers. It shows she wasn't there for free food. It shows she wants to contribute and not put nothing on the table. And it shows she doesn't follow societal norms which is huge for me.

itsannalee · Answer

Nope, i will pay if I don’t like the guy. I’ll let the guy pays if I’m interested to him. I’m traditional, i want to date a guy who will learn how to provide the family coz i will be a traditional wife. But if i just consider u as a friend, I don’t mind to pay for everything.

NathanDavis · Answer

I really don't like to "fight" over money...

I always offer to pay, especially if I am inviting

but if she wants to split the check, then we do that no worries... if she, for some reason, wanted to pay the whole thing, well, do it... we won't worry about money, lol

RingOfFire · Answer

Wouldn't know because it never happened to me. And if you are talking about on a date, I wouldn't want to date a girl who would do that. I've had them politely offer to pay and then instantly drop it when I told them I had it, but argue over it when I say no, never. That would be a real turn off. I'd figure she is some kind of feminist with a stick up her ass and that is the biggest turn off I can think of.

robhazelnut · Answer

For me, there's a sense of alarm bells. Paying is a simple process between two generous people: one offers to pay, the other offers to pay, and if both would still rather pay after that, then pay for one's own meal and be settled.

ohsheeT · Answer

it's kind of made me smile because I've never seen that before and if I did I would probably just grab the check out of their hands and just walk up and pay for it

Billlewis · Answer

No -- I want to pay for every date you go out on --- whether it's with me or another lucky guy.

ColHathi · Answer

I mean we aren't all the same. Some are more "traditional". Some aren't. I don't like the idea that the guy should just pay for everything on dates, so I'd appreciate the girl fighting for the check, sure.

aceleon · Answer

yes but it wouldn't really be a fight, if she says i'll pay, then she pays, if she doesn't then we split it i'm not a credit card.

strateguy632 · Answer

some guys like her to offer to pay so they can say "no i will" i would accept her offer.

Avicenna · Answer

Nope. But splitting or separate checks is fine.

XXblack88 · Answer

I would think so unless they like doing thing things old school where the guy pays for everything.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

No, I'd prefer she just paid for what she ordered and I pay for what I ordered.  Monetary exchanges are not part of the deal.

dynamicyandere · Answer

I’ll always pay. But, it’s a nice gesture for them to offer to pay (and truly mean it).

JTPeterson · Answer

Girl if you did that with me I’m definitely putting a ring on you

Guido · Answer

No, i very much dislike that. I asked you out and I will pay. I have paid for every date I have ever been on.

exitseven · Answer

I;ll let you know if it ever happens to me.

systemsareyo · Answer

As long as they don't mount the table / climb over the table, which is a no-no 🚫

AnusNdaPainus · Answer

Yes.  The Gesture itself means a lot

dolemite58 · Answer

Girls always give up on that fight very easily

justabuddy · Answer

No, but it is nice when she offers or just does it. No reason to cause a fight.

boobliker · Answer

it nice to have things paid for, thank you.

Slim57 · Answer

Never had that happen

Anonymous · Answer

Only broke ones do.

tanya_s21 · Answer

Nope

jaskin777 · Answer

Nope

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