I have been having sex with this man on and off for 15 years. We are basically a booty call/friends with benefits type of situation. Always mutually beneficial up until recently. We had been off for a while but last year started to hook up again. We both have kids and families but decided to have the affair anyway.
The first time after a long time was amazing for both of us - we both finished and enjoyed and we saw each other three times that month… we kept seeing each other about every other month with each time becoming just about him and zero attention on me. He’d finish and not touch me.
The last time I saw him he promised the sun and the moon in terms of what he’d do to me. I did everything he asked kept telling him I want to finish but once again it was all about him. When I brought it up he excused himself out of the room and then called his landline with his cell phone not realizing it would show the number. He then said I had to leave as someone was coming. I found out after no one was coming and I confronted him about it. He kept lying until he realized he was caught. He said - I wanted you to leave - I asked why didn’t you just say that he said You wouldn’t be able to handle it and that he felt guilty because he saw his kids picture.
While I understand post nut clarity and all that- what I don’t get is how this time and the last 5 times were also all about him and with those times I came to realize he was faking his way to leave after. What’s the real reason? (And yes I’ve tried asking him) why would he keep trying to see me but only make it about him? It can’t be guilt every time. Also all these times after that first meet up last year he’s lasted all of 2-10 seconds but expected 10-20 min bjs and nothing at all in return to me. It was never like this before in all the years and our meet up last year was nothing like this.
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Your a booth call, nothing more, nothing less. He pops and he is done and gone.
This was never a friends with benefits, your simply a quick and easy piece when he is bored.
The only difference is that he has probably grown bored and found someone else he is putting the effort in.
He likely already had someone else coming over so he needed you out
It was like this earlier but you were his focus. Now your not. Welcome to be an affair partner that is only as useful as he wants you to be.
Because he just wanted to bust his nit and didn't care about u or how u felt
But why all of a sudden. It wasn’t always like this
It changed because he only has sex with u now because he wants to bus his nut over actually having sex with u maybe he lost the actual attraction for u
He was still showing lots of desire and interest. And its booty call so he’s not just with me but yet kept coming back to me telling me how much he wants to see me have sex with me etc then promises me all these things he will do but doesn’t do it
No he showed desire to have sex he promises u stuff because thats what gets him that sex he learned after a few sessions he doesn't need to put effort in with sex with u because he can still get u to fuck with him next time whilst he dont care about what he does with u
You basically had a FWB’s situation for 15 years and you seriously are asking if he was using you…. Lmao what?
Benefits go both ways
Clearly…