I had a guy at cafe find me ok Instagram why and how?

[CoolCatMar1]

So i was at a local cafe (well known one) withy bestie from university and there was one guy (really attractive one) who stared at me a lot... I stared too of course ! sooo he seemed interested to me... And he somehow found me 2 days later on IG and followed me FIRST!! So i texted him today after 2 days that have passed since he first followed me. He replied in 15 minutes and we chatted for a while and he told me to go to the club he works and that he will be waiting for me🙂🙂🙂🙂 hmmm what does this whole thing mean?

[love_conquers_lust]

Is that not considered creepy to opt to communicate via social media over face to face interaction by scouring the internet for your face?

[CoolCatMar1]

I don't know he is hot😊

[CoolCatMar1]

😂***

[love_conquers_lust]

Emojis aren’t rendering for me for some stupid reason.

*face palm* You are thinking with your vagina right now. You know how much lonely dudes on here bitch about double standards and I just finished a question on dating safety. Your generation also has a large segment with social anxiety that I’m going to be dealing with in coming years via general interaction.

I don’t mind the interacting via social media as that’s your comfort zone. What I do mind is he didn’t ask for your social media information when you were face to face, or you didn’t ask for his. Even asking, “Hey, may I take your picture and find your social media information?”, though still comes off as creepy, is better than lurking and scouring for your information without your knowledge. I get the ego boost, but you have to set the tone for some civility.

[CoolCatMar1]

Well we have some people in common on Instagram

[love_conquers_lust]

I’d inquire about it before meeting anywhere. You know it’s bull shit for attractive guys to get a pass while unattractive ones don’t.

I also may be old fashioned and this is just how your generation works. You guys may be more comfortable putting yourselves out there in the digital wild.

[CoolCatMar1]

I don't put myself anywhere

[AngryCarl]

He's obviously a stalker but he's very efficient.

[CoolCatMar1]

Ηahahhahaha

[AngryCarl]

Thanks for MHO!

[Sour-rose]

Of you know, people have ways of finding you on social media. Hell, saw how a man was able to find a woman's location by just her spinning around outside for 5 seconds. If people want you, they'll find you.

[RebelinSteel]

He likely used something to track an image of you and found your Instagram.

[CoolCatMar1]

Interesting

[jennifer_bloom]

You might be attracted to him but make him earn your trust before you date him. Give him a chance but be slow to develop a relationship with him if you decide you like him.

[Zestyassmf1997]

Means you’ve been naughty and now the government is watching you.

[CoolCatMar1]

😊😂😂

[msc545]

If you seriously have to ask, what is it mean? Then you probably should not go to his club and should not get involved with guys until you grow up a little bit or get smarter or both. Did you really need to ask this question?

[Paul_in_Indy]

This is not hard. I think lots of us look up attractive girls we meet to check out more of them. I don’t know whether that’s weird or not.

[Paul_in_Indy]

Also, I’m sure you know this, but: this guy is just looking to get laid. You should only meet him if you were looking for casual sex. …and be safe, because he’s doing this often.

[spartan55]

So he works at a club eh? You are one of many then, just know that.

[CoolCatMar1]

He isn't a bartender though hahah. He is like the one who meets and greets the people

[CoolCatMar1]

But who knows... He only recently started working there

[CoolCatMar1]

All the girls i told about that incident with the follow where shocked nothing similar happened to them hmmm I don't know we will see i guess

[spartan55]

So he's either a host or security, which doesn't change my answer at all.

[Sparkie460]

It means he went through a lot of trouble to find you because he's interested in you

[hahahmm]

Guy is probably doing the same to 10 different females every day.

[WhitneySnow]

He’s really into you

[Squatting_Slav]

Probably took a sneaky pic and used AI