Where did guys get the idea there's only one woman for him. They still talk about it with everyone "She's the one"!! Is there just "the one" still?

[sage2021]

That has been going on since forever. Dad's telling their son's that they'll know she's the one when you see her.

[Finchie40]

Mainly from the Bible , most guys’ that have good moral values take commitment seriously , and they want a girl that stands by him and is loyal and faithful to him , that has his back no matter what obstacles they face together , as long as she stays loyal and faithful to him he more than likely will do the same for her. , if she chooses to cheat or flirts with other men , he will more Than likely start losing interest in her. Because he wants a girl that makes him feel wanted and appreciated that looks up to him. Most guy’s will not commit to a girl that brings misery into his life or has selfish mindsets , he wants a girl that brings happiness into his life. he wants to feel appreciated and wanted by her. I hate to say it , but sex is important to most men as well , if sex becomes an issue in his relationship with her , he more than likely will Get it elsewhere or leave her for another Girl , that doesn’t want to withhold intimacy and affection from him. Most guy’s want a girl that doesn’t have a huge body count , or a reputation of being a whore , he might have sex with her but he won’t commit to her. A girl with a lower body count will be more appreciated by him , most guy’s hate the thought of his girl having sex with other guys’ if that doesn’t bother him then he is a rare breed lol Most guys’ want a girl that has moral values that believe in love and commitment and marriage , that take it seriously. Especially over girl that doesn’t, Most men have egos , he wants a girl that looks up to him , that makes him feel like he is the only man for her , if she fails to do so , he will more Than likely start losing interest in her , and won’t care about what she does anymore , he might stay with her , because it’s cheaper to keep her , but she will no longer be the one , he is more than likely going to be up to no good behind her back. A guy that loves a girl , is protective of her and pretty much territorial over her he will fight for her and stand by her side and protect her at all costs , if a guy doesn’t really care about what his girl is doing behind his back and doesn’t check up on her or stay in communication with her , when they are apart , he more than likely doesn’t really love her, he just likes the convenience of her , A guy will only choose her , if she chooses him. A girl that believes in love and marriage and knows what it means to be in a relationship , has a way better chance than a girl that is selfish that only Thinks about herself. When a girl makes her man her priority , a man will more than likely make her his. A relationship needs to go both ways for it to work and for love to grow , it won’t always be perfect , but if both partners learn to remove selfishness for each other that relationship will more than likely make it the long haul , if both of them choose each other over everyone else in this world. Marriages and relationships last when both partners prioritize each other , Marriages fail , when the marriage or relationship becomes one sided , meaning one partner chooses selfishness over choosing their partner. Sadly a lot of people don’t know how to remove selfishness when entering into a relationship, they only think about what is best for themselves without factoring in how their partner feels , we all have selfishness in us , if you can’t remove that selfishness for your partner, don’t expect them to remove it for you. Why it’s important to wear your partners shoes before making decisions , if you can’t do that for your partner then you are best not to get into a relationship period , because we don’t get into relationships to be single. I will not commit to a girl that acts like she is single that can’t remove selfishness for me , it needs to go both ways or it’s just a waste of time , basically thanks for a good time , but not a long time

[Jamie05rhs]

It's a very wholesome concept!! It's meant to promote monogamy. I believe in it, and I am for it 100%!!

[Jamie05rhs]

Thanks for the MHO!

[NathanDavis]

people with no experience do tend to idealize...

and those who tend to idealize often go with archaic views and ways that they often romanticize...

also true that, so many other people do actually find the one they need and want and love, right away and/or at their "first try"... but these are less and they're very fortunate and also great people to one another so...

the second ones do reinforce the idealizations of others who didn't find it yet, or never could...

[FunkyMonkee]

Obviously not!! So MANY times, the one that turns out to BE "the one" eventually turns out to be the one you can''t wait to get rid of because some terrible shit she's done to you!!
Girls like to think they have the upper hand in a relationship and that men are always assholes that treat them like shit but women are AT LEAST JUST as much assholes as men are!! My brother had about 5 of them. I had at least 6.

[incorrected]

Monogomy is such that only one position is available, "the one" meant "the one to fill that position", but it morphed into a stupid notion that there's just one person out there that has to be found, because people are stupid and they turn wisdom into fool's gold.

[Joshydavid25]

Like everybody else it's being sold to them by romantic movies.. That "special" girl whom you just magically know you wanna spend your life with.. When really there can be a "one" but you have to make it work.. It's up to you to make them "the one"..

[CozyCoffin]

It's actually a very old concept. Aristophanes introduced soul mates. Two-headed hermaphroditic giants were cleaved apart by Zeus in jealousy, fated thereafter to seek their other halves forever. I'm in love with this girl, she most be the one. Women are often the same way. Once the feelings fade, either one or both move on to another person. There are many people that mesh with us.

[Kelly6]

@sage2021

that is a very good question.

i will wait for answers.

my opinion is that they are saying.

She the one for me “ at this time”

if relationship fails then.

She was no the One.

[laly520]

they say she is the one then it falls n they find another n say she is the one n it falls again n they keep trying until they find the real one

[exitseven]

There is not only one but there are not too many. Finding her is still a longshot.

[HouseMoat]

Some people still marry multiple people, even if it's illegal