How do guys decide a girl is “the one”?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend had minimal dating experience, one ex from years ago and is introverted where he barely pursued other women. We matched on a dating app but he never went on a date with girls there, I was the first one he took on a date. I remember our first date lasted nine hours and early in the dating stage, we just hit it off right away. We’re each other’s first actual serious relationship. I’m the first to meet and be introduced to his family since he has a close relationship with them and to his best friend, he’s kind, patient, and understanding with me where I appreciate everything he does. Basically we’re mostly each other’s first everything. Question is why pursue me despite the fact he’s had some girl friends and coworker crush on him in the past but put in the effort with me despite being introverted and shy. Why is that and how do guys know when a girl is worth pursuing and see a future with?

[Finchie40]

She makes me her priority the same way I make her mine , she is loyal and faithful and isn’t selfish , She has a caring heart and understands the foundations of a relationship. She doesn’t hesitate to be in my arms and has my back the same way I have hers. Intimacy and affection between us both is amazing , that’s a girl I will try to keep by my side for the long haul

[DishLady]

Aww, a sweet story. I wish you both luck.


I’ll share what I tell my friends back home all the time: Just because girls are throwing themselves at a guy doesn’t mean that the guy is accepting or entertaining their attention. If your guy has “tunnel vision” for you he’s just sweet and in love.


From what my guy friends have shared with me, guys are looking for the gal who makes them feel comfortable trusting and confiding in them, the girl who genuinely cares for and connects with him, the girl who gets his intellectual, emotional and physical engines revved and purring.


So for your guy that seems to be you, which is fab for you! ☺️

[SphynxUK]

I don’t really understand your question. If you hit it off straight away, it’s a clear sign you are compatible. And if you are, both people will want to see where it goes. It’s the same whether you’re male or female. You want to feel that you click and feel instantly comfortable or else why bother?

[Nik1hil]

How do we decide she is the one..

Comparing to food, Like you taste all types of food depending on mood.. But imagine that your Taste some "Magical Berries" then no longer crave human food, You only crave those "magical berries".

It's like... Eating something so delicious that after tasting that, no human Food can satisfy your craving only those magical berries can and you stop craving human food.

We stop craving random beautiful girls and models, that's how we know it's her

[TheRealPepperPotts]

I think it's a combination of familiarity and attraction. You "feel" familiar for a variety of reasons that can't necessarily be explained, and he obviously finds you attractive. That sounds so sweet and I wish you all the best. <3

[Darkchild25]

Lucky you.

I'm sure it's the same for mature women. If you click with a guy, you have the same or similar goals aspirations in life then why not?

Some people have boxes that need to be checked before they know they've found the one. Others just go with the flow and realise hey it's been X amount of years and we're happy together or it's working, I guess this is the one for me.

I'm glad you don't have to keep dating as it isn't nice. I wish you and your partner all the happiness.

[sawno]

When she is truly compatible with me. So obviously looks matter in that, I need to find her sexually desirable if I am going to be exclusive to her. But its the personality that is the biggest factor because I find a large amount of girls pretty and girls with matching personalities are rare and very hard for me to find.

[hahahmm]

You must have had a personality that hit him as different from the other women he's dealt with and there's mutual attraction. Beyond that trust and loyalty become important. But you are not "the one" until he gives you a ring. Everything else is like an athlete winning races in sporting events but not getting the Olympic Gold Medal (ring).

[HawkPerception]

I decide mostly from how compatible she is with me.. my definition of compatibility is more so along the lines of similarities.

Having similar views, interests, way of thinking, sense of humor, communication style, sexual compatibility, where we want to end up in life, etc. If she aligns on all of these, I'd likely wife her up.

[RavVid]

I have related this in a couple of questions as an illustration.

I was on holiday 4,000 km from home so it was never going to go anywhere. She was making coffee at a cafe. I liked her appearance and I saw she was nice and I think cooperative. I found "She would make a really good girlfriend" welling up in my mind on the first coffee.

She seemed to like me too.

It can be this simple.

[Unit1]

I'll speak for myself.

When a girl is nice and sweet like anime girls are, i classify that girl as a suitor.

[McLlovin]

A conversation will tell me everything i need to know. After 1 conversation ill already know, im very laid back though im not putting you in front of a firing squad type environment. Im just very keen.

[Pyres]

Just sharing a common interest can be a big plus that could put you ahead. I've seen a couple that do long distance dating and even though they can't physically be together, because they both enjoy art and drawing the same type of art, they always have a reason to message each other and stay in touch.

[midnightmoon05]

Evertthimg sounds good betwee u two. Can’t really explain attractions. Just be grateful u two are a good pair.

[tzdc21]

Depends on if she's willing to commit for me just as much as I am with her. A woman who is willing to go through hell and back for us is a woman who is worth sacrificing everything for.

[WhitneySnow]

I guess the same way girls know someone is the one. Intuition and spending time with the person.

[paledreams]

If I'm thinking she's for the long term woman or a short term woman - all things weighed up and evaluated ♀️♀️♀️♀️🔮👀😛

[Emmytexrex]

That's a very good question if she have vision and goals an intellectual and have something to bring on the table and we both love each other I am good to go

[shanshu]

It's always a feeling like whatever the quirks she has or when she gets argry or does something stupid or smart, you feel I want to be around for all those moments

[ProbablyClueless]

It's not really like we have a decision making process. It's a feeling we have.

[Anonymous]

If she's DTF, attractive, feminine, and wants to contribute as opposed to just go along for the ride.

[Anonymous]

She’s loyal, she’s nice, she supports you, she’s not playing games and behaving like a fucking 7 yr old trapped in a 27 year old body…shout out to Arooj Jafri for lying and acting immature.

[Anonymous]

When we have given up finding a better woman and we are under pressure from family to settle down. "Yeah, I guess you'll do".

Believe it or not ladies, you aren't the only ones who "settle".

[Anonymous]

they get with a girl and overly-romanticize her in their mind until she's “the one”

[AdolfWasRight1488]

When she is poor and only cares about her future children and family life

[dolemite58]

We choose which woman is going to ruin our life the least 🤣

[ThaMaskedMarvel]

What does he say when you ask him?

[Anonymous]

She does generally by her action/inaction.

[Anonymous]

Maybe you are also introverted?