How do boys realize she’s the ONE?

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Angelo75 · Accepted Answer

To be honest, the whole idea of "the one" is a media projected image.
They'll say things like "love at first sight", while you have to 'know' a persons personality in order to grow into loving them. In reality you only have "passion/attraction" at first sight. But that's just physical.
There is not really "the one". If you go into life thinking that, you will be constantly trying to be "the one" for someone, and will just pass good oportunities because you are searching for "the one".

In real life, both men and women who has lasting relationship/marriage will actually just "decide" that they're going to put their effort and focus on a person.
That person will also focus back on them and from there on they both make a LOT of effort to keep working for that person.

If you have a crush on a boy, become his friend. Try doing things you BOOOTH like. If he's also putting effort into u, you MAY have a keeper.
But only past your 20s will your feelings settle down enough so that u can have a steady healthy relationships. (Biology)
So try to NOT get too much tangled into looking for "the ONE" cuz there's a high chance that one of u, when hitting 20s, will loose interest in the other simply cuz you 'grow'.

HighlyVolatile · Accepted Answer

It just became so blatantly obvious how different my wife is from my exes. It was obvious even from the beginning but I wasn't sure it would stay that way.

I could go into an endless number of things but she's almost impossible to offend, and she doesn't seek to escalate conflicts. She seeks to deescalate as I do, and so as hard as it might be for some to believe, we haven't fought a single time in over 14 years together (and almost 12 years of marriage).

She's also not at all needy or insecure. She has her own friends, her own career, her own passions. She's the most independent woman I ever dated, and at first, I was a bit confused by how happy she is on her own without me. I was so used to ex-girlfriends being at least a little bit needy and insecure and associating that neediness and insecurity to love.

Yet I came to realize maybe that's the most valuable kind of love between adults is when they "want" each other, not "need" each other.

Mostly it's just amazing how well we can get along with each other. I can share anything with her. We can even tease each other when we're getting chubby. She never gets offended by anything I say.

libsaretards · Answer

It is an instinct/intuition thing. We could never put it into words, but we can sense if we are meant to be with someone serious. We may not know if she is the one for life, but we know she is the one who is at least meant to be in our life at the present.

Lionman95 · Answer

When they can´t stop thinking about girl and as guy you start comparing other women to that kind of girl.

FakeNIK · Answer

Like just hearing there voice gives you butterflies, No matter how much bad mood, stressed you're, Once you meet them everything goes away. They bring smile on your face, You can talk with them for hours without worrying. Then for me, she's the one

PhotonicElectrons · Answer

I thought that is why girls decide who a man marries, he asks (a few), but she decides... we seem to forget that in our woke society where it's all men's fault, it is the woman that decides who to marry, who to have children with and who will bring that child up...

Oh you have a problem with "that" man - ask yourself why did his mother pick his dad...

virtue2332 · Answer

When you're okay with them doing things that would piss you off if anyone else did them.

slatyb · Answer

There's no one. There's just "I'm happy enough to stay with her."

Anonymous · Answer

You have to take a long time vetting her. Even still you can never be SURE it isn't all an act. I typically look at the way she treats her family. If the people who are supposed to love her the most doesn't like her, that's pretty telling.

omnivert · Answer

Well they dont.

Sure its funny, but boys are tend to get attracted.

So realisation? No
But yes there is an exception.

If a boy finds a girl truly opposite of his personality then BOOM, "she's the one I was finding!"

crossdressingrihno · Answer

When we decide she's worth gambling our life savings on XD In all honesty I think it's mostly intuitive

genericname85 · Answer

They don't. There's no "one". It's an arbitrary decision a guy makes based on attraction, gut feel and experience. And often it turns out to be a bad decision.

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

There is no such thing as the 'one' There are thousands of suitors out there for everyone!

MrTuxedo · Answer

Can't really say, I'd say it's just something you have to feel, not realize.

Mangospacho · Answer

It’s when you like them a lot and think about you all the time and you only want to spend time with them…. and they feel the same way. It’s that second part that’s tricky. 😉

Anonymous · Answer

She has a low to no body count  she has no history of cheating  she isn’t entitled  no partying past

exitseven · Answer

She was the light at the end of a long, dark tunnel

David_Bayer · Answer

It's pretty simple, when I find someone who I feel comfortable and happy around it sort of happens. So far it only really happened once and I decided to leave the game.

Massageman · Answer

Beats me. Over 40 years and I;m still trying to figure that one out.

Anonymous · Answer

There are multiple ones :) It ain't hard to figure it out. We either really like the girl or we don't. Something inbetween lands outside still.

noohair · Answer

At your age, guys can barely pee without getting it on the floor.

Pudsmucker · Answer

Does she realize he's the one?  It works both ways when dating.

Iron_Man · Answer

Because she’s innocent she’s good and she’s loving and caring

Anonymous · Answer

for me it doesn't work like that. i dont realise she's the one i have to first get to know her before deciding to marry her

WhiteBoyChill · Answer

A variety of factors. For different guys they fall in love for different reasons

Anonymous · Answer

Can't really say, I'd say it's just something you have to feel, not realize.

IsoUser · Answer

When you look deep inside her eyes you just know.

driven159 · Answer

you should feel it in your heart

MrTaboo · Answer

Short, cute, obedient, kinky... yep she the one

TX651 · Answer

When feelings just click and fall into place.

Nahid1707 · Answer

When she shows she is

boobliker · Answer

I don't think we do we just get on with life,

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