Not in the mood.. then why?

[Anonymous]

Question for my guys.. if you are in a bad mood (not from you) or are really stressed, why would you text a girl you like but not really answer her back when she's texting back but give her short answers? So my situation is there is this guy I talk to we like each other, but yesterday he msgd me as he normally does in the morning with his 'gm beautiful' text.. i reply with my normal 'gm handsome'.. just for him to not really reply to me or as much or just reacts to the msgs I'm sending (ex. Heart, laugh) and evey now and then say a few wrds.. I asked what was up he said he was irritated and so stressed and tired of things going on in his life... so I tried giving him motivation, encouragement, sympathy, empathy telling him how amazing and strong i see him, and how I really care about him and his mental health.. I mean I wasn't over doing it or anything and I really did mean everything I was saying, but just for him to basically ignore me and my efforts... my question is why even reach out to me if thats how he was going to be? Why would abguy do this?

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm, that's a tough situation. When dudes are stressed or in a bad mood sometimes we just want to vent or be left alone for a bit, ya know? But reaching out to you was probably his way of still feeling connected even if he wasn't totally up for chatting.

A few things could be going on:

- He might've felt bad not texting you at all cause you guys normally talk, so sending a quick message was his way of not ghosting you completely.

- Texting is less effort than an actual conversation when he's stressed. So starting a conversation was an easy way to let you know he's thinking of you without having to talk it out.

- Guys don't always want to burden girls we like with our problems. So responding simply was keeping you updated without dumping all his stress on you.

- We're not always the best at communicating what we need either. So ignoring your responses might've just been him being in his own head.

I wouldn't take it personally. You clearly care about him a lot from how supportive you were trying to be. Maybe give him some space today but check in tomorrow to see if he's feeling better and up for a real talk. Chances are he really appreciated your messages even if he didn't show it. Hope that helps provide some dude perspective! Let me know if any other questions come up.

[BarryLiverstone]

It’s his pattern.

[Asker]

What is msging me?

[BarryLiverstone]

Ya, you said he does it every morning

[Asker]

Yeah, so... and it's not every single day there are days he dsnt... most days yes

[BarryLiverstone]

So that’s why he messaged