I met a Pakistani man a few years ago online on a game. From the start, I knew he was promised for an arranged marriage, had a girlfriend (not the future wife) and he's barely half my age, so I was never interested in him romantically. But we grew very close very fast, and he was always there for me like family. He's never been happy about the arranged marriage, and I watched him fall into a very deep depression and have to break up with his girl friend whom he was deeply in love with and they were good together.
A few months ago, he finally accepted one of his parents choices for a wife, and they started negotiating with her parents. After everything was settled and they started making wedding plans, he suddenly admitted that he was in love with me and had been for a long time, and then just started spending lots of real money buying me digital items and upgrades for the game we play. I never asked for any of it, and told him that I wouldn't ever feel the same way because we both knew it could never work. We have never met in person. I'm in the US, he's in Pakistan.
He kept on with his usual behavior, except he was calling me his girlfriend, and being very affectionate with me. Very soon after that, I got overwhelmed with him getting very territorial over me and angry that I didn't love him the way he wanted. I eventually had to block him. I really miss my friend, and I don't think he was really in love with me. This was such a drastic change that I believe this is a reaction to the arranged marriage, but I don't want to cause him more pain. It's been half a year since we last spoke. Should I try to reach out or let it go?
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