If a guy is messaging you less than normal?

[Anonymous]

Cause for concern? Used to be everyday all day now the messages are lagging and they're more like check in short texts.

[Anonymous]

Women need to understand that this constant texting, calling, isn’t men. Sure we may lay it on in the beginning because we know that’s what she wants. It doesn’t come natural to men. Women tend to think w feelings, men logic. Women crave attention. But men aren’t like that. We don’t sit around all day waiting for a girl to message or call, we continue living life. I’ve been w my girl for 15 years, as much as we’ve been able to make it work, as much as I love her it does get annoying at times. Girls say well why can’t he just send a simple text, a simple response. Because he knows that simple response is going to lead to more questions, more complaints, etc. We want a girl but we don’t want a girl. Meaning yes I want her around just somewhere near not always next to me.

[spartan55]

The problem is girls don't even TRY to understand this... it is maddening.

[Opinion Owner]

@spartan55 no they don’t. They go based off of their feelings. They feel that because this is how I think men should be thinking the same way.

[spartan55]

Yep, and that couldn't be further than the truth.

[Asker]

I should try to think more like a man in this regard

[Opinion Owner]

Yes. I mean I get you need some attention but he isn’t going to be like that all the time. But he also needs to understand you need some attention as well. A balance. A lot of us men can go a week or two w out talking to our girl, leave us be, we’re fine. Women seem like they can’t go a day w out communication. Yes there are some exceptions to both. Look at the questions women ask? There’s like every detail in the question, a full page. A man will say so my girl got mad because I didn’t have time to talk to her, why? That’s it. Most men don’t put all those details into it. I would love to answer a lot of questions on this forum but damn trying to read the girls’ entire life story, it’s crazy. Yes I’m an exception I like to converse especially when it comes to relationships in talking to women to get them to understand men better.

[Asker]

My thing is this dude was messaging me right from when he got up at 4AM, all through work (I never asked for any of this) and right until he went to bed. I never even asked for the constant communication so why set that as a standard. Like I still don't expect all of that... it's just the sudden change up that is jolting. Like I get 24/7 communication isn't sustainable.. I don't know.. I'm just not going to set expectations with what I'm given from now on lol

[Opinion Owner]

That’s usually what men do, especially cause they know women crave attention. You didn’t sleep w him already did you

[Asker]

no... and now I really don't want to lmao I kinda don't want the attention at this point lol if im being honest..

[Opinion Owner]

I can give you attention lol jk but more than likely you’re going to go through that w most men. Women really have no idea what men want, what we like, how we are. They go based off of how they feel so they feel as though men should be the same

[Asker]

Yes, very true. I appreciate input though! thank youuu

[Opinion Owner]

You’re welcome

[spartan55]

He is tired of putting more effort in your whatever it is.

[firenine909]

He could be losing interest in you, you could be more dry or he could realize the relationship you have won’t lead to dating or a hookup or whatnot and he’s not as invested in it

[laly520]

he is losing interest