When a guy doesn't text back?

[Anonymous]

This guy that I'm interested in talking to is a very slow responder when it comes to texting/snapchatting. I usually have to message him first so about a week ago I decided I was going to wait for him to get a hold of me. It went a week and I just figured he wasn't interested but then he finally texted me the other day like nothing happened. My friends say he is just nervous to talk to me but I don't know what to do about that. Should I ask him why he took so long to respond, should I just keep initiating the conversations, or should I just forget about him? Any advice would be appreciated.

[PlatonicBFF]

I can tell you for sure, guys are just slow: It does take us about a week to realise we haven't talked to a girl (even if it's one we fancy really badly) recently - sometimes. Also, if he's busy, well, he's busy. And is he shy around you, or is he quite a ladies man. That would indicate whether he is shy about talking to you, or if there is another reason why he didn't respond

The real question is, when you chat to him, does he chat back? If he uses short answers and long gaps between responses - unless he provides a reason for not being able to respond quicker -, or you can see that he has read the message, but hasn't replied and doesn't volunteer a reason then he's probably not interested. On the hand, enthusiastic responses doesn't mean he is, he might just be a good, but busy friend. That you'd have to work out seperately

[AmongTheFirs]

Some people just REALLY are not into texting or email or chat or whatever. So once in a great while some people who are interested will still not say much except in person. But if you try to hang out and they're not into it, case closed, move on.

[PlatonicBFF]

Agree with that!

[godfatherfan]

Some guys are shy. SOme people hate texting. While I do text a lot I think it is horrible when it comes to anything related to a relationship. You cannot hear tone in a text. so a text could be taken a lot of different ways depending on your mood when you read it.
Sounds like if you want him you going to have to be the aggressor. At least for a while. once he understands your interested and want him to talk to you, things should even out.
ask him why he took so long. tell him you really want to talk to him. word it however you need to... You go get him girl...

[becca123]

I would forget about him. If a guy likes you, he will make more of an effort to be in touch. The fact that you always initiate and he takes forever to respond are both bad news. Shy, busy, whatever... this has been ongoing and not getting easier for you or him, so wait and see if he initiates. If not, you have your answer.

Don't ask him why, just cut contact and see if he picks it back up.

[Anonymous]

Well, I would take note of how he is with his phone. Is he usually on his phone with you? If so, then I would try to figure out why he doesn't message you back that quickly. I would ask him but it kind of sounds petty to be like why didn't you answer my text message or snapchat. I guess, I would move up to calling him on the phone and having an actual conversation and see where that leads you.

[NikkiLH]

Well he just might not be into texting, I have a couple of guy friends that are like that. Its a good sign though that he did end up trying to contact you. If you are in a situation where you see him in person often build up a relationship that way then try calling him or if you aren't sure if thats okay just ask him "hey would it be all right if I called you sometime?"

[daring_girl]

He could be nervous but then again it shouldn't take that long for him to response back.

[blackpanther123]

dont give up just yet, if your friends say that he's nervous, theyre probably right. he might not want to text you because he doesn't want to seem annoying, next time he does this, bring up like "we haven't talked in a while!" or something like that so that he knows you want him to text you more often

[InLoveWithMissWrong]

This is common. If he texts you once a week you're fine. The girl should be doing the texting and initiating of conversation. Trust me, being over eager to text and over interested is a sure fire way to lose a girls interest. You don't want a guy who chases you.

[Wannamaybehangout]

Some people generally don't like texting and some are busy and forget to respond later. You should ask him to see a movie or something and see how a date goes. That will surely tell you if he's into you or not. This whole, "the guy has to make the first move" or "be the one to initiate a date" is bullshit. If you ask him out and he says yes, that answers all your questuons

[Anonymous]

Could be shy. And long wait times (does he play video games) x) i think any guy who games "not even a harcore gamer" anyone who games will forget they're texting a girl or not notice she replied lol. Shy/being a bad texter are also other possibilities. Or he's playing the (don't seem desperate and play it cool) game. Where you let a text sit for 3-5 min. Now if he takes like 10-15 suspect video games x) or other possibilites as stated

[Yc2K15]

stop texting and just leave it, there is 7 billion people on earth. If you don't meet someone better I'm sure he will try contact you for a booty call, and you just take advantage of it being a woman and decide if you want to or not.

[steelnerve]

In the texting game, this is called investment. This guy of yours is trying to build a value of himself. Its not necessary that he's doing it on purpose. Dont show all your cards already, play along. Initiate, chat him up. May take time, but once the ball gets rolling, you can also use this trick to your advantage.

[MartCharbel]

If a guy does know your feeling towards him, most of them don't play hard to get...
U never know, so give it time. Do the usual things that you do but until he responds the way you want, try not to get too much attached to him... You might just get frustrated :-(

[Honey7]

maybe he doesn't know how to start the conversation, you start and he will follow.. and if you are tired of this just ask him why he didn't text you but ask him in a good way ! i don't know like "i was waiting you to text me.."

[Klaatu51]

basically i believe he's not a good texter... not all people are :-)

better try to call instead

[Anonymous]

Ask him if he wants nudes, I bet he will respond real quick! if thats the case just forget about him he's not worth yo time

[savvyridley]

theyre probably just living their lives and going with the flow lol

[Balcazaurus]

I know I'm bad at texting. Maybe he is too. In that case, talking to him in person would be better to coax him out of his shell.

[Anonymous]

Just forget him I'm going through a similar situation don't waste your time . I text this guy first he never really responds just go on you will meet a guy that will chase you.

[RinXD]

In my experience guys hold back on texting for fear of being clingy/overbearing as a lot of women do not like either.

[Luvme66]

No... just keep doing what you do! Just dont act clingy cz you might get not so polite txts!

[sp33d]

If he takes this long to respond, he might actually be busy.

What would happen if you two met up?

[BlondeCJbomb]

He's just not that into you.

[Anonymous]

Forget him.