Is he just manipulating me?

[Anonymous]

He said that he really likes me and I told him I like him as well but I am looking for something serious.. He tried to convince me to stay in reality and not think about the future.. He said that we both like each other lot but he doesn't think about the future.. He wants me to talk toh him and talk about intimacy and stuff but he doesn't think about the future.. When I told him that I'm not comfortable with intimacy until I know that the man is going to be there in my future to which he started convincing me again.. When I finally said a big No, he felt really sad and started crying and accepted it and said that he'll wait for me and he really likes me a lot.. What does it mean?

[Anonymous]

It means he’s a bitch. Move on. Dude is crying over you. You’re not going to respect a man like that. A dude who is supposed to protect you? Eventually even if you do date him you’re going to leave him because you know as a female you can run all over him. Either you’ll leave him or cheat on him. He doesn’t have to wait, just commit. What’s so hard about that? It’s not like you’re the one not wanting to commit, it’s him, so what exactly is he waiting on as far as you? Sounds like an idiot. Find a real man.

[Anonymous]

Yes he is manipulative and it's clear sign of traumatic future. It's HUGE RED FLAG. Please better you back off now when you have time. Don't listen don't get carried away by tears or anger or blame game. definitely it will come. definitely he would try to Gaslight you to doubt upon yourself your own intelligence or your own gut feelings.

But I can see your gut feeling is clearly able to sense it. You clearly know what you want and what you don't so don't compromise with it and stay safe. This only I will say as your well wisher.

[Bella_994]

Truthfully, a man who respects you won't push intimacy and make you uncomfortable. If he can't see your worth and that he should be planning to stick around for the future, get rid of him!

[boggboss]

He said he will wait for you yet he is the one that's not willing yo consider if he wants to be with u long term pretty obvious he is manipulating u

[noohair]

Men used to have to make a commitment to a woman for sex.
That was love and marriage.
Women wanted freedom and equality.
This is the unintended consequence.

[spartan55]

It means you need to find a different guy.

[Anonymous]

Most men will try to get away with that.

[laly520]

a jerk
move on

[DagonbroughtMehere]

Yes.