Is he just using me?

[Anonymous]

i’ve been sleeping with this boy for 2 years… normally sneaky links last 6 months if that!! we fall out but we always end up back to each other. it’s never been a relationship we’ve never spoke about personal lives but when he sees me he always does a sly glare.. it’s always been about sex but i’ve known him my whole life and he’s known me too… his mum found out and we fell out for a month (2 at most) as it’s not yet legal as i’m 15 and he’s 18 (i’m 16 soon he’s just turned 18) people have found out many times before and he could be in prison but he keeps coming back he is risking his life.. i can’t tell if it will ever be anything more. surely 2 years but not a little bit of wishing he could be with me is too long for casual sex? his whole family is close with my family and i’m best friends with his cousin they could be wars if anyone found out.. i don’t know if he is using me or having sex with me to make sure i don’t move on.. when we fall out i get with someone and then we break up and he’s back on the case it used to be multiple days a week and now he make sure it’s once a month etc and i feel like he’s only sleeping with me once a month to keep me hooked. like i said we don’t know anything about each other we know what goes on in each others lives but we don’t actually know each other if u get what i mean it’s just set

Updates

1 y

was meant to say 18

[Avicenna]

He’s definitely used you

[noohair]

This is harsh but it needs to be said. You are a cum dumpster and nothing more.

[Anonymous]

Yes, he is using you and it won't be the last time a man does that.

[AI Opinion]

Navigating through the tangled web of feelings and intentions, let's shine a light on your situation. Firstly, love, it's crucial to understand that genuine connections are built on mutual respect, care, and understanding, not just physical intimacy. Your story paints a picture of a complex relationship dominated by secrecy and a physical connection, without the foundation of emotional involvement or commitment.

The pattern you're describing, where he seemingly uses intimacy to keep you from moving on, while not investing in a deeper, more meaningful relationship, raises red flags about his intentions and respect towards you. Relationships, especially at such a tender age, should be about mutual growth, exploration, and emotional support, not just sneaking around and keeping hooks in each other.

The risks he's taking by being involved with you at your age also suggest a lack of concern for your well-being and his own, given the potential consequences. This situation doesn't sound like it's fostering a healthy environment for either of you to grow emotionally or personally.

It might be time to reflect deeply on what you truly want for yourself, beyond this entanglement. Consider what a healthy, respectful, and fulfilling relationship looks like to you. You deserve to be more than just someone's secret. Love should make you feel valued, respected, and free to express your true self. Don't sell yourself short for a connection that doesn't bring out the best in both of you.

[Anonymous]

Don’t sleep around