Confused about ex’s behaviour?

[Anonymous]

So my ex broke up with me a couple months ago and claimed he didn’t love me.

I went no contact, but he would check in every couple of weeks. Things recently seem a little different, he’s reached out more and even invited me to hang out with him platonically (we’ve come to the agreement of no hookups or friends with benefits situation)

however, while having a conversation he mentioned that if he had less issues he would’ve married me. Wtf?

anyway we hung out about a week ago it was good he took me for lunch and then we went to an arcade. He joked and flirted a little and even booped my head, which is something he did a lot while together.

other than that nothings really changed and we don’t talk daily or anything like that. I’m too scared to even address with him, but I definitely feel a shift. Curious on what everyone else’s opinions are on this! TIA

[kylee2437]

Seems like he’s seeing if you will stick around for all the nonsense he wants to accomplish , and hopefully you will be around (saving you for later). That is up to you to decide if you enjoy that kind of direction. Just be aware that if you address that you want him back in a more serious manner, he will probably run.

[Asker]

I’m confused a little, like he’s using me or just wants to keeep me around until he’s ready?

[kylee2437]

I mean it’s however you want to take it personally. It can become a situation of him using you if you decide you want to go along with waiting around and your feelings are being excused for the sake of him not being ready.

[sheikalana]

I don't think that staying in contact with an ex does any good for both parties involved. Things can easily be misinterpreted. I'd say try not to read too much into it and let him go. Hanging out with an ex is not going to get you anywhere is best to just move on and let the past stay in the past.

[laly520]

block n cut ties forever
ex stays in past

[Asker]

I don’t think things are necessarily always that cut and dry. We get along famously and truly had no real relationship “issues” while together

[laly520]

his behaviour is strange n he has no boundaries n limits thus he succeeded in confusing u
its time waste n u won't need all of this games especially when u gonna start seeing another guy
u may not get it now but eventually the ex place is in past

[kylee2437]

I wouldn’t say block, but definitely keep your distance and don’t allow him benefit from throwing you away. Some people really are going through things and want to accomplish things, but don’t allow him to use you in the meanwhile

[laly520]

in most cases keeping in touch online with ex isn't good idea
if affects many girls mentally

[laly520]

doesn't help with moving on too

[kylee2437]

That depends on who you are talking to. If someone knows how to step away, evaluate the situation and see it for what it is, then it shouldn’t affect someone mentally. That requires putting feelings to the side, which of course will take time. If they didn’t leave off on a bad note, I don’t really see why blocking him is essential

[laly520]

yes but the fact she is already confused n the way he is behaving
I dont think it would be the case for em

[kylee2437]

Or sometimes people just need help figuring out what’s going on. Maybe she understands now and can operate the situation to be more in her favor.

[Asker]

We were no contact for a while before this all started up again I did have time to not fully move on per se but I definitley got clarity about him and the relationship and was able to regulate my emotions better

[laly520]

good
keep ur mental health on check n prioritize ur well being