Should I write to ex?

[Anonymous]

My ex broke up with me after he heard that I was talking about our problems to people I thought were my friends but they told him when they wanted for me to failed on exams. But it wasn't gossiping because things I told them about were things I told him straight in eyes. I don't know if he is narccist who wanted excuse to leave me or good guy who was hurt and thought I was bad guy?

[Oliverlogan263]

Man dude that really sucks what happened with your ex. Getting dumped is always super rough, especially when it seems like it came sorta out of nowhere. I know how much it eats at you too trying to figure out exactly why they broke up with you - was it something you did wrong or were they just looking for an excuse? With your situation it's extra confusing cause it almost feels like your "friends" purposely caused trouble between you guys too. If it was me, I'd probably be going crazy second guessing everything!

I don't know your ex so it's hard to say his exact reasons, but from what you told me it does sound possible he just wanted a way out and used what your friends said as an excuse. But there's also a chance he really did feel hurt hearing your private conversations from other people instead of directly from you. Only one way to maybe get some closure and that's trying to talk to him. I'd just shoot him a casual text saying something like "hey man can we grab a quick coffee, I have some things I'd like to clear up about what happened." Then at least you'll get to hear his side of things and can decide if getting back together would even be possible or if you should just start moving on.

Just brace yourself though cause there's a good chance he might not want to meet up or might say things you won't want to hear. Try not to get too hurt or bent out of shape if that happens - his loss! And don't let this one bad experience stop you from putting yourself out there again with other guys. I know it's rough now but time really does heal all wounds - sooner or later you'll meet someone even better who won't bail so easily. Just focus on yourself and your friends for now dude, you'll get through this!

[SolitarySolace]

They’re an ex for a reason. Don’t do it. You’ll regret it. I know I did

[HateyouxD]

When you fall out with people you don't expose them and when you fall out with people telling others what happened is gossipy

[Asker]

But I was venting to people I thought were my close friends. I didn't try to expose him.

[HateyouxD]

Now you know you can't trust them to not keep things to themselves. Unfortunate situation

[Asker]

Yeah but why he still likes them and didn't understand after years that I was good person? This one situation made him think that I'm awfull human being?

[HateyouxD]

I think it may be mixed with you guys were so close and he felt betrayed. I think you should bring this up to them. Because I'm sure you are he might not be used to a good friend like you. I think he switched up because he could of disliked you for said incident and the many people who came to him seemed like good friends because so many came to him about you. I'm not sure this is kind of difficult tho

[laly520]

def not