If you already know a guy likes you, by choosing to follow him back are you indirectly opening the door for communication?

[Anonymous]

[DarkWinterNights]

I don’t know. I don’t assume follow backs are invitations.

[ReelEGood21]

Yea, I would say so. Any mutual connection welcomes communication.

[Asker]

So if you know he likes you and you don't feel the same, do you recommend not following back?

[ReelEGood21]

Absolutely. Men are simple. If you leave a door open or any doubt we will likely take it. Better to just either be direct about your feelings or if you don't want to do that just don't engage

[Asker]

I see. What if I already followed him back and now he occasionally messages me? He asked if my phone number was the same and I told him yes.

[ReelEGood21]

Well at this point you've given him hope. You will need to just be blunt about how you feel

[Asker]

How did I give him hope if (1) I followed him back because he followed me first & (2) I simply answered his question in regards to the phone number thing?

[ReelEGood21]

Acceptance of his communication and confirming a more intimate method of communication like the phone number. That's an opening for him

[Asker]

After he asked if the phone number was the same he asked if he could text me and I didn't respond. Don't you think that was the best way to handle it?

[ReelEGood21]

I mean ghosting is not great but if you aren't going to see him or anything it works. Just ignore him and he should get the message if not just block him

[Asker]

It's not ghosting if we weren't really talking

[ReelEGood21]

True

[spartan55]

Yeah, I'm sure he'll pick up on your hint