Hey heyitslinda,
It would be a nice thing if a guy who liked you would come up and talk to you. But, this isn't always the case because of different reasons:
1. He's shy
2. He's insecure
3. He thinks he doesn't know "how"
4. He doesn't want to be rejected, embarrassed, etc.
5. He doesn't want to jeopardize the current dynamic between the two of you.
These are basically all the same thing, namely that he doesn't think it will turn out well. Girls, even more than guys, don't always talk to guys they like - or perhaps they do, but in an indirect way i.e. subtle flirting that the guy doesn't pick up on - and this is for basically the same reasons. As a result, its common for two people to like each other and for neither of them to "make a move."
If you like this guy, then do your thing. However, if he never initiates the conversation, then that may mean he isn't really that interested. I would say talk to this guy in person or on the phone and ask him out on a date and then you'll know what's up.
You may enjoy a video I have made regarding calling a guy who doesn't call you: link
- Evan
Yep, that is true. Hell, once I got a date with the girlfriend I'm with now, I found ways to impress her... like, I made her chocolate covered strawberries and brought them to her work. I used to open doors for her and now saying that, I should start doing that again. I used to do everything in my power to keep this girl interested in me. Although I didn't need to cause she was easy going and she liked who I was as a person, I still kept doing things for her cause I really liked her and didn't want to give her a reason of regret. I think that a man should show his interest in a women by being more proactive about it. Its OK for a women to make plans, but its always nice for the man to take over and run things for a bit. So from a gentleman's perspective, yes, a man should find many ways he can to talk or date you.
sweetie he's not interested...as far as the whole "guy getting in touch with you no matter what if he likes you," it obviously, as shown below differs from guy to guy, but this guy you're talking about isn't interested. you're texting him, you're making all the plans, and he just sits around while you do it. if he was into you he'd be more into it...i'm not saying he has to be all over you like white on rice or a fat kid on a cupcake I'm just saying, I've dealt with a few shy guys and I've dealt with a few forward guys and he's not feeling it. I'd stop talking to him and if he misses talking to you then he'll text you but if he doesn't then he'll do the same thing he's doing now. luckily, y'all aren't in a relationship because if this is how the relationship was, you'd be having a relationship with yourself. seriously. you're doing ALL of the work. clearly you're exhausted and you can't do that to yourself.
uuhuhhhh cuteid is either that way himself or he's making excuses for this guy! THERE ARE NO EXCUSES FOR NOT BEING A MAN AND INITIATING THINGS! your a woman and as of now your CHASING HIM asif HES the prize! wise up and as difficult as it may be STOP TEXTING HIM! if you begin the relationship chasin him you'll have a hard time turning the tide. if he's really interested HELL chase YOU. And trust me you'll see how interested he is by how long he takes to notice you haven't texted, or called, etc. You're gonna get nervous but back off and watch him. hell show you how much he cares. And don't listen to his words, men ONLY talk to clog up our ears and get to our drawers... lol about the ONLY meaningful thing they say is Will you marry me? lol
I am going through the same thing -.-
but now I'm letting him guide the way.
i don't text him nor ask him to hang out if he wants to
he will ask me but up to now nothing so I understand you sucks :l
guys don't like to put theme selfs out there like we do.
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No, there have been lots of times when I didn't have the balls to go strike up a conversation, or to finally make the jump from "will you be my friend" to "will you go on a date with me".
He may just be shy, or unsure of how to proceed. Have you tried to make it clear that your texts and plans are intended to be flirtatious. He probably just needs some prodding to get him going. So you get the same advice I would give a guy, be more forward, don't be so subtle about it be a little more flirtatious he will pick up on the change in behavior. If he isn't in to it step it back down and learn to deal with being friends.
Or he may just want to be a friend, if he is not making any moves at all.
For a moment there I thought this was going to be parody of that guy from new jersey who keeps asking girls to kick him in the nuts..
I think that you're wasting your time if someone only wants to put in minimal amount of effort. I think many guys don't say anything when they like someone, just as many girls do. But if you are already dating, the only think I can think of, that he's dating someone else on the side, or he is just lazy...
Yes, we will try every way possible. just as long as it will be a good conversation. He will do whatever to talk to you. honestly, do you have any idea how hard it is to talk you girls? if you think guys are confusing... Well when you are a guy its a whole new level. and every guy that tries to deny it is lying. they want to seem all macho because they think that its manly to be able just walk up to a girl and not even get to know them and then ask them out. A man is only a true man if he is a gentleman. I have never seen nor never heard of a guy that can walk up to girl with no fear what so ever.
Yeah, he will find any excuse to hangout with you, unless he's trying to act cool or he's shy or something. My boyfriend, before he asked me out, always wanted hangout with me everyday until he finally asked me out.
He z too nervous nt 2 do d wrong thing at the wrong time,.he z shy and probably likes u..but at least should text and try 2 get on a good convo with u.,
Its been my experience that a guy will find a way to spend time with you if he truly likes you. Maybe this guy 'knows' you will always make first contact and organize the plans What if you stopped? What would be the worst thing? Maybe he'd never call? His loss, darlin remember that ;) You don't want anyone who doesn't want and appreciate you ...just for being you.
yes if he likes you he will be itching to contact you your maybe being to available for him some men like a chase tell him your going out for a night out don't tex him see what happens
not for all guys ... I just prefur the girl to talk to me first
if I am clear that I like her and she is also intrested in me ,then I am gonna talk to her
i just try to wait for her to show up ,even bumping in to her inteionally just to talk to her
ummm I hate to say it but sounds like not interested I don't know as a fact id have to see you together to know but it doesn't sound good
not always, he could be shy
some guys are shy.
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