How can I get a long term boyfriend if I've gone the opposite way of not getting the guys I want but I can't seem to get the guys that I want?

[TheSimFans]

The type of guys that I have liked in the past have been mixed types. I have been trying to get out in real life, but I do not seem to be attracted to guys in real life. A turn off for me is a guy who has cheated in previous relationships, played, lied, abused, verbal abused, disrespected, and keeps trying to push me when I say no. In my mind, I wanted nerds, gamers, and shy guys, but I think they will mostly stay at home instead of going out for gaming conventions However, my mother always goes out with me regardless of where I am, and I do not seem to get approached by men because of her as well or maybe it has something to do with my appearance. Through online dating and dating apps, I got tons of likes from guys. I don't think I will find my type of guy in real life, but online might be the only option for me. How can I get a long-term boyfriend if I've gone the opposite way of not getting the guys I want? I can't get the guys I want?

[Dan_cColt]

My best advice is put your best foot forward and try to become more active outside where you would happen to meet these "more nerdy guys" that you want. I'd also say try to present yourself physically the best you can and just have a comforting personality. If it's a more gamer, nerdy guy you want there's plenty. There's always going to be guys you don't want who want you. Also, dating right now is harder than it ever was probably, so don't take it personally too much cause a lot of people are in the same boat.

[TheSimFans]

@Dan_cColt I already has tried outdoor soicel events and no mean there are not gamers , i cound't find nerds to. i been to more then one gaming conventions and yet don't get apporched anyway because of my mum always comes with me no matter where in public i go. she most go with me. my mum is one of problem and yep always will come with me when comes to first meetup/first date. i can't date mainstream men. can only date men with learning disabities and mosty likey to stay at home if they are part of gamers.

[Dan_cColt]

If you feel like you've done the work then just try to present yourself in the best light because you can't control things out of your reach, but I will say it sounds like your mom might be holding you back. It doesn't sound like it's coming from an ill place but you are also an adult and should tell your mom that coming with you for the first date is a bit much. It sounds like she really cares for you but you also need some autonomy as an adult to try to navigate the sh*t show that is dating in modern times. If you think you can only attract those kinds of men then try to find one you physically find appealing or would consider dating. Don't lower your standards if you don't want to but you also might miss a lot of good people.

[TheSimFans]

@Dan_cColt I have try to talk to mum about first date isuse and said about safety reason but she too set in own ways and always end with silent treatment and yep talk about abuse, rape and verbal abuse. the only last thing that i heard she said you will never date or be in relationship again if you do not men without a learning disabites and she said only learning disabites men only.

[DannyUk2017]

We are lots in the same situation, "standards" have been raised Wayy to high to be eble to reach it, so i guess we're doomed! 🤷‍♂️, now depends what are your type also, what is that you want in a guy/man...🤷‍♂️

[ChiTown33]

A friend of mine her husband playing World of Warcraft. So it happens.

[Adogdog]

I am in the same situation! :)