I would like some opinion on what you all think about this siutation:
I'm going to post anonymously so my post isn't found. I'm 36 and it's been a year since I've been in contact online with an older American man. He's 49 and we met on the FB dating site. I've made it clear what I'm looking for; long-term commitment, aka marriage. I don't want to be someone's eternal girlfriend. We actually met in person. He visited me this past November, the week before Thanksgiving Day and was pleased by my personality and that fact that I'm a stable woman.
However, nothing has been established yet. He hasn't asked me to be official so my status is single. Ever since Dec 28, I've met new people at a language club and been invited to more parties. On the New Year's Eve I've partied all night long, returned home obviously very drunk and had a hangover. That was an exception to be honest. I'll be hanging out at the language club today after work, heading to a party at a club on Friday after work and will go to a beach party (3 hours far from home) Saturday all day long. Just this weekend, I went out on a date with another man and obviously didn't post that picture.
The only issue is if were to post more pictures of my recent partying days, obviously I'm not going to be seen as a serious, family-oriented woman by him. Yet, I can't be waiting too much for a man anymore, esp if he's not even my boyfriend. If I can't get commitment then honestly I'd rather be single and go to parties than be someone's eternal girlfriend. I'm kind of depressed at times to be honest. Two past ex bfs (the first one even scammed me with money and was literally a sociopath) already wasted my time. I got nothing out of being the female version of the nice man, the goody girl for too long, that can't do anything fun. My first ex boyfriend used to even called me a ''goody-two-shoes'' even as a joke many times. I had enough.
So nothing wrong there right?
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If you go on dates with other people then you should at least be open about that to him.
You can also take up the subject and talk about it.
But otherwise, you do you.
I'd say live your life if he sees you for what you are worth then it'll work out
yeah if it's meant to be then it will be
I got tired of always being the woman that waits and waits and acts too serious when the man himself isn't acting the same so whatever. My ex boyfriend would even disrespect me by going clubbing often and taking pictures of him drinking with other women (my family hated him for that) so whatever if men can have fun, so can we.
Yes, that makes sense to me.
Indeed. It's not like men are going to be waiting for us and not having fin of their own either. I got fed playing the role of the good-two shoes for too long and get nothing in return for that.