Is my boyfriend settling into our long term relationship or losing interest?

Anonymous
I don’t know if I’m just insecure or if there’s an actual problem. & I was wondering if anyone had any tips or advice I could use to check myself when I start feeling crazy & insecure.

I’ve been with my boyfriend for over a year, we moved in together fast (he moved into my apartment with me to help me while in school) about 4 months into our relationship.

This is his first actual serious long term relationship and first time he’s lived with a girlfriend, and this is my first “healthy” relationship (I’ve been in a long term relationship that was very toxic- I was mentally & verbally abused/ stalked/ yelled at).

Both our careers just recently took off, he got an amazing promotion, working 6 days a week, VERY long hours & I’m about to start my first serious job in my career after recently finishing school.

We had some issues we moved past a few months ago having to do with him being insecure about our sex life, I wouldn’t initiate sex I was exhausted/ preoccupied with school. We eventually worked it out & moved past it- we were doing amazing until his new promotion.

Recently he’s stopped calling me on his car rides home most days, we barely text during the day (it’s usually boring like how are you how’s your day) when I start expressing how insecure I am or that I feel like I’ll never see him once I start working on opposite schedules he tells me that we live together & that we will be fine, we stopped having sex as often.

I am hyper focusing on EVERYTHING-if he cuddles me on the couch or kisses me first when we go to bed at night. He’s being less “cutesie” to me lately. In my head I feel like he thinks I’m a loser because I have so much free time before I start working & I just spend my time at home or the gym or enjoying my free time off. (He never actually said this it’s just my only explanation for all this)

I can’t tell if it’s just me having too much free time and he’s busy or if there’s an actual problem & he’s losing interest in our relationship.
Is my boyfriend settling into our long term relationship or losing interest?
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