Should I tell my side of the story or forget it? Which is the best way to go about this without looking like a bad person?

[Anonymous]

I have this girl who's a friend. I met a guy through her, which they're kind of friends. Me and this guy dated a little but I found out he's not a good person later on.

So I ended it, I told him why I ended it but who knows if he could let himself understand my reason. So my female friend wants to know my side of the story. Most likely my reason will find it's way back to the guy I rejected even though I told him why I ended it, it's not a secret.

I don't know if I want to go down that path. I could say, "He didn't make me feel safe or respected me. He has this awful view towards women and how can I expect the man in my life to love me, cherish me, and respect me as well as trust me if he doesn't respect women in general." Along with numerous red flags that screamed the relationship would be extremely unhealthy and one sided while the guy is misogynistic the entire time.

So I just thought to not broadcast the problems that happened. I was thinking in saying, "Out of respect for him, it wouldn't be right for me to talk about it." It is between him and I so, telling his friends on the side I feel is really immature and not right.

Or I could very briefly explain the concerns that ultimately lead to me ending it.

I don't know what to do, because I want to make the best choice possible in the most mature way possible and I also want to move on. So what do you think is the best course of action? I have no idea what to do in this situation.

[ohsheeT]

The way to deL with it is to be honest
I didn't feel safe with him. That's all that needs To be said

If she knows him then she might say something more to you

Whatever happened between you guys happened between you guys nobody else and unless you say the more you know it's not going to get exaggerated or taken way out in left field he just wasn't your type whatever you don't have to tell everything and I would respect that more anyway and same with him if somebody asked him what happened instead of him loving his mouth he should say the same thing we just see things in a different way and that's it done sorry over with

[BoopBoopBeep]

I was thinking in saying, "Out of respect for him, it wouldn't be right for me to talk about it."

That's pretty much how I discuss all my exes... Or rather... don't discuss. That's also a large part of why I'm friends with so many of them. Your "friends" need to read the room. You're not dishing out the gossip they want. They need to get over it or you need to get more mature friends.

That said, I have no idea what happened. If it was something criminal then report it and disregard everything I said above.

[msc545]

I second this - well said!

[Asker]

Not criminal, just not the right person for me

[Asker]

Or I should say we weren't the people for each other