My boyfriend keeps choosing drugs over me and our son?

[Anonymous]

My 27 year old boyfriend hasn’t came home properly in 2 weeks. He always FaceTimes me at 3am saying he’s coming home yet he’s with his friends smoking weed and sipping some drink. He says he can’t come home because if he gets caught then the. Police will arrest him which is true. But the solution is, don’t smoke? I quit drinking alcohol as it caused arguements in our relationship and I’ve said to him you need to stop it we’re done and he keeps doing the same thing. I’m with our 6 month old 24 hours a day now because he wakes up at 12pm and is so stoned with his friends. He’s also cheated while under the influence and I don’t know what to do anymore.

[sage2021]

If you have somewhere else to go, then you and the baby need to go!
He's not going to get better! And you're just going to keep getting older waiting for him to change.

He's got a monkey on his back, and until he doesn't want it anymore things will just stay the same.

You are with a chemicalized person. I bet you don't even know the real him. Just the chemicalized version of him. He's not even real.

Now, go on to getting yourself a new life 🌹

[Anonymous]

This is where you leave him the trust is gone and I don't think you could trust him to look after your son.

It may seem hard but it's best to move on I'm sure you will find someone better to be with.
This is a similar situation my girlfriend was in with her ex, but she mainly left because of the cheating, the drugs had there tole he looks about 10 years older than me and he is close to 10 years younger.
He's decided to throw his life down the pan so don't let him drag you under.

[TommyMountainFigure]

You have to come to terms that his drug habit is a disease, a painful to watch and destructive disease, and until he wants to do something about it, you cannot do anything barring an intervention.

[midnightcavern01]

Walk away, get social services involved and make sure he is clean if he wishes to see his son

[Artificial Intelligence]

Navigating the stormy seas of relationships, I've seen plenty of ships struggle with rough winds like these. It's clear that you're deep in waters where your partner is choosing substance over the sacred bond you share. Love, it's time to raise your sails toward healthier horizons. Substance misuse and infidelity, under any influence, are flashing red flags signaling that it's time to prioritize your well-being and that of your little one. Engaging in a candid, heartfelt conversation about your feelings, expectations, and the non-negotiables in your relationship is crucial. However, remember, it takes two to tango, and both partners must be willing to dance away from discord and towards harmony. If he remains unwilling to change, consider seeking support from friends, family, or professionals. Your journey should be towards happiness, love, and respect. Don't anchor yourself in a storm. 💔🛶

[BoopBoopBeep]

You learn to accept it or you move on. He's indicated pretty clearly he isn't going to change.

[DextroShade]

Congratulations, you had a kid with a loser and may have ruined your life. My advice to you would be to leave him and get with a single dad who is significantly older than you.

[Anonymous]

You’re already living life as a single mother. Be honest, do you really need him in your life?

[boggboss]

U are trying to force a relationship to work with someone who doesn't care

[boggboss]

He won't change as he feels he has no reason too just end things

[exitseven]

Did you know this guy was a burn victim before you had sex with him,?

[jahaims]

That's what happens when you let losers use you as a cum rag

[JamesRandiDebates]

If smoking weed is preferable to what he has waiting for him at home, then what he has waiting for him at home is not very good.

[Asker]

Untrue our son is the cutest and I’m a very attractive woman.

[JamesRandiDebates]

So you say. And you may well be. But you may also be a nagging shrew. And you might not be putting out satisfactorily in the sack. Whatever. If he'd rather be smoking dope with his buds, there is something majorly wrong with you.

[Asker]

I only nag because he causes me too🤣and I’m good in bed so I don’t get it

[DrPepper12]

Bye Felicia! Move back in with family if you can and get this dead weight off your neck.

[RedInnocent69]

He’s an addict who needs help. Great if drugs enhance sex or the relationship, but it should be no contest. Sex, sex, and always sex.

[zagor]

Maybe use birth control and dump him? Oops, too late for that.

[FuqUFggt]

You need to start choosing you and your son over him.

[HelpfulWoman]

make him an ex and do better.

[Asker]

I’m trying I just really struggle we’ve been together for a while he’s my first boyfriend I’m 21 but it’s causing me deep sadness

[slatyb]

Is he contributing anything?

[Unit1]

Uh, why is that *your* boyfriend again?

[Staximus]

Sounds like you enjoy the company of bums

[KrakenAttackin]

Keep picking winners.

[Twalli]

Dump him