How do you deal with them? I’d say one of two ways. Respond that you are not an incel and ask why they think that you are? Be open to their replies and don’t argue them - just listen. Once they have delivered their opinion chew them for a few days and ask yourself what your projecting that sends that impression to people.
Second possible way, you work with some assholes who just like picking on people and have found a single dude and an easy target.
As far as having high-standards, how you express those to the world (and if you even should at work at all) is probably both unwise and half your problem. Anybody who falls outside your standard (or loves a woman who does as well) may see your opinions as very passive-aggressive and it’s a huge turn off. Nobody needs to be reminded if they or those they love are a lower standard than others may expect. It’s just comes off wrong. Save those potentially offensive opinions for anonymous internet places or your pals in a pub over drinks.
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You can’t argue with the type of people who accuse you of being an incel. It’s like arguing with someone who accuses you of being racist for being born white. It won’t go anywhere. It’s best to ignore these people. Tell them they’re insane and unhinged and Block them.
1 - Change the way you talk online. Calling women 'females' or making up bitter misconceptions like calling us all cheaters, both are common incel behaviours.
2 - Let it go? If someone calls you something that you know you're not, you shouldn't have any reason to get offended, right? I mean, I've been accused of being a slut 'cause of how I talk online. Doesn't really get to me since I'm a virgin who's had one boyfriend 💀
tell them that you just have really high standards. not like it's any of their business tho
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I don't know, I've never been called an incel and I'm also celibate by choice. I guess it would depend on why they call you that. Are they actually saying you can't get laid, or are they just using it as a general insult on your appearance or personality? Either way it's not very nice or constructive criticism. I wouldn't be friends with those people.
Honestly why do you care? Most people's opinions are not worth a bucket of piss. The fact that someone would take the TIME to comment negatively on your lack of relationships only shows how angry and bitter they are. Because why would they care otherwise?
I've had to tell people in the past that I wasn't an incel & instead that I was a volcel. I explained what it meant. Voluntarily celibate. And I've also openly expressed how I don't believe anyone is truly an incel. I really do believe there's someone out there for everyone. Not to say that everyone WILL find someone, but statistically speaking, the odds of someone being sexually attracted to us is never 0.
Tell em to F off with that crap or just don’t listen to them. People be stupid.
You ignore them. I was called an incel a lot in my 20s I didn't care because I knew that I was in fact celibate because I was looking for the right person. If it doesn't apply there is no need to be upset, offended, defensive or anything else. If it doesn't apply the word is about as effective as saying "hey guy with the nose" notice how that is just kinda whatever for an emotional reaction upon reading it. Same thing
A lot of women hate when men have standards, usually it is when men have no interest in low quality people with a promiscuous past. It is often those kinds that say that from what I have seen. I have never seen good quality women with good morals say that.
don't care
you can't change people so change the way you receive their words and actions
Just don't bother. You can say "but i am married/ have a girlfriend/engaged" all you want. You aren't going to convince them otherwise because they don't care.
If they already resorted to that tactic you already won because insults are just a sign that they are coping with the loss of an argument.
I had guys say I rejected them for racial reasons when I had far more intelligent reasons for rejecting them.
It is really easy - same way you deal with people who call you a purple hair. You know you are not, so you dismiss it and laugh at people who says it. All those name callings only affect you if you are not sure about yourself and think "maybe they are right" But person who are sure about themselves won't let others affect them.
I deal with it extremely easily, because I have no idea what it means, and every time people tell me, I forget straight after!
So in effect they are wasting their breath.
just ignore them.
i get called many things
ignore them. incel means involuntarily.
If you are not one, then you are not one, just ignore people.
High standards does equal to incel 90% of the time. You might fall into that 10% but either way you can't do much to stop people judging and labeling you
is having high standards the only reason you were accused of that?
Try to not act like an incel, and you'll probably find such accusations happen less.
I don't hang with ugly people.
You likely are, tbh. You’ve likely said nasty generalizations that are toxic. Quit being so hateful towards others.
Why do care if they think you are an incel?
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