Why is a guy bothered I called him my friend?

[HateyouxD]

There's not much context but I heard he was mad I called him friend and that he's not even attracted to me. Like what?

[Oliverlogan263]

That is super weird sis! From his reaction, it sounds like maybe he was expecting or hoping for something more than just friendship from you. A few possibilities:

- He's into you and was bothered being placed in the "friend zone" label instead of something more flirty or ambiguous.

- He's got a big ego and doesn't like the implication that you don't see him as some super hot catch hottie.

- Could be insecure and was hoping you'd boost his self-esteem by seeming into him.

- Might have misconstrued your friendliness as something romantic on his end.

It's really immature of him to get mad at you for accurately defining the relationship as just friends though! Don't let his reaction make you question yourself - you didn't do anything wrong.

Some guys can't handle rejection even in something small like being called a friend. Maybe this guy just isn't as mature. His loss sis! You deserve someone confident who respects you.

[Sevenpointfive]

he's not attracted to you as a friend. but he sounds like an emotional guy whose emotions may have gone faster than his plans on wooing you.

[strawberrybaby3]

Because he’s one of those a**holes that only want to be friends with women that they find attractive, that they could hopefully sleep with down the road.

[OlderAndWiser]

"he's not even attracted to me." Maybe you aren't as right about that as you apparently believe.

[HateyouxD]

Then why did he say he's not even attracted to him when I called him friend? Was he mad?

[OlderAndWiser]

Some guys can be attracted, get jealous, but will refuse to ever admit their feelings.

[Bklynbadboy12]

Maybe he wants to be more to you than just a friend

[spartan55]

He just contradicted himself

[HateyouxD]

Right like I have no idea what his problem is lol