What’s this man trying to communicate to me?

[Anonymous]

There’s this guy who a few months ago, said he loved me but couldn’t act on it because of his autism related sensory issues, with intimacy. Since this time, every time he makes a new profile on each dating site I use, he swipes yes on me, even adding me to Facebook and Instagram. Since swiping yes a few days ago and subtly reminding me that he can’t act on his interest. He won’t speak to me anymore, but keeps finding me on dating sites and swiping yes on me. What does this mean, that he wants me to know he’s still interested? Or is he being nice?

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1 mo

I’m autistic too, so I can’t be sure of which it is.

[Oliverlogan263]

Yo girl, this dude seems really confusing with how he's acting. A few things I'm thinking:

- He clearly has feelings for you since he said he loved you before. That don't just go away.

- Because of his issues, intimacy is hard, so reaching out this way is likely his way of still showing interest without having to actually interact much.

- Constantly swiping yes and adding you on socials is him basically yelling from the rooftops "I LIKE YOU!" even if he don't say the words.

- He's probably hoping you get the hint so he don't have to directly face rejection or deal with his issues head on. Taking the easy/safe route.

- But it's also kinda immature and playing games by not giving you any clarity on what he wants either.

If I were you, I'd straight up ask him what's up - does he want something real or not? Be direct but also understanding of his situation. If he won't open up, might be best to leave it alone for your own sake too, ya feel? You don't need that kind of game playing. You gonna find someone better at communicating for sure.

[spartan55]

If I used GaG as a legit statistical sample then 90% of our population is either autistic, adhd, aspergers, or a narcissist.

[Asker]

Ok then. So what is your opinion on what he’s trying to say?

[spartan55]

He's full of shit.

[laly520]

he ain't serious