He only texts at night?

[Anonymous]

I (21F) am talking to a guy (21M) that I’ve known for a minute. We’re both college students and we go to different universities (we’re 1hr 30min apart). He’s a nice guy and we do relationship like things (kissing, sex, etc) but he only texts me like once a day and it’s at night. He slips in a call here and there but otherwise we don’t really talk and things get a little lonely. I forget that I’m even talking to someone sometimes. Should I be worried about his lack of texting?

[ohsheeT]

Have you ever told him that you wanted a little more from him... Do you text or call him out of the blue

If he's just doing it at night that might mean. He's finished doing whatever it was that he was doing in any manner or way or with whom and now he wants to communicate with you or he only wants to give me the gate with you because it's night time.
With some guys you kind of have to teach them or train them almost in a way to what you want..

But in saying that it shows you how much he wants or thinks of you
. I mean he really should be putting a lot more effort into it because when you really connect with somebody if you're going to have spontaneous calls text everyday because you can feel the energy of that person and you want to hook up that energy in any way that you possibly can when you really like that person whether it be through a text or through a phone call or video chat..

Does he drink maybe that's the only time that he can get his courage up is at night time after whatever whatever LOL. .

But I can feel you and I can feel your into him a lot deeper than he's into you and that really does kind of suck..

All you can do is really communicate to him about it and tell him you know what your needs are and let him go from there

[Fireguy17]

some people are busy, some people do not live on their phone, yes, it is a rarity but there are some that are not glued to their phone, possibly he is not able to text during the day when he is busy.
Have you thought about actually asking him why instead of us?
He is the only one that knows why, we are only guessing, which won't solve the problem.

[Asker]

Pretty sure he does classes/study/gym all day with the boys. Sometimes he goes out at night with the boys too but I wasn’t too worried about it since one of them knows of me and him talking to each other.

[Fireguy17]

that's good, but maybe talk to him about it and let him know how that makes you feel.

[Daniela1982]

You already give him what he wants - sex. What more are you expecting? Maybe he waits for his "real" girlfriend to go to bed before he can talk to you. You are being played.

[Asker]

We only had sex once though

[Daniela1982]

Quote: "we do relationship like things (kissing, sex, etc)"- not "we have done or we did" which could mean once. You are really trolling or not telling the truth, aren't you?

[Asker]

Sex is not off the table, another one probably would’ve came soon

[Asker]

Is this how you talk to all people online? Why even bother replying if you think I’m a troll? Sounds like you love wasting your own time atp.

[Daniela1982]

I also told you what I thought was happening. Take it for what it's worth. But since you are the one asking you might consider looking at all opinions, unless you are not divulging some info that you left out, and you therefore know why. 🤔

[Asker]

Hmm okay. Well I'll take your word for it. Another girl here said I'm a booty call. I just texted him and summarized what you two said while also saying I understand that he's studying/likely busy.

[Asker]

I think your perspective about how he could possibly be waiting for his real girlfriend to go to sleep is great. It shows how things look from my side.

[Daniela1982]

In my eyes, it could explain why someone only calls in the evening, unless he works late at work every day. But then you think that he might give you a quick call or text at lunch or break. The only way you will really know is if you ask him.

[Mr_twoface]

Depends on what agreement you had before getting into bed? If you just let it flow on without making it official then you may think you are in a relationship and he believes you are just a casual fling whenever he can contact when he is in the mood.

Now, if you want more, make it clear to him. If not, decide what you want and communicate with him about it.

[Anonymous]

Depends. Is he someone you’re hoping to be in a serious relationship w? If you are than yes he doesn’t see you that way. I hi k you’ve blown it by sleeping w him just as friends or whatever your status w him is. I wouldn't be surprised if he’s messing w some other women closer to him.

[LazerBean]

You're just a booty call