A guy i've been dating for 2 months assumed that i'm his girlfriend. He did not even ask me. Why is that?

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

Been there lol every single one of my relationship started out this way. I guess they think if you’ve been dating exclusively for a month or two it automatically means you’re in a relationship. Fair assumption, but it would be nice to discuss/talk about it with you beforehand when making it official lol

[Asker]

My point exactly!
This leaves girls confused.

[Opinion Owner]

I’ve since started asking the “what are we?” question after a month in lol

[Asker]

But what if he starts addressing you as his girlfriend but in your mind you're like "What? I never agreed to that".

[Opinion Owner]

That happened to me in my last relationship. I just straight up asked “since when? We haven’t discussed this”. I didn’t feel comfortable with him claiming me to be his girl without discussing it with me, I think it’s important for you to be straight up with them

[Asker]

I afraid i might offend him.
He is special to me, but not to a boy friend level.

[Opinion Owner]

You can definitely be gentle about it. I feel into this trap multiple times and ended up in toxic relationships all bcs I didn’t want to offend/hurt my ex, but people pleasing got me nowhere 🙃. I think you need to talk to him about it, tell him that he is special to you but you need to take it a bit slower, tell him your intentions (if you’re looking for a relationship with him or not down the line).

[Abbycado]

Because it is an assumed thing after a while. Do you need an announcement?

[Asker]

Oh, i didn't know that you just assume that your in a relationship after seeing each other for a while

[Abbycado]

I think after dating and whatnot you just go yeah we are in a relationship.

[Asker]

Don't you think both parties need to know talk it out first so both parties know where they stand?

[Abbycado]

Ideally, yeah. Some just make that assumption though. No problem if you bring it up to him though.

[Asker]

Yeah.. good idea..

[boobliker]

firstly are you a girl and are you his friend if yes then you are his girlfriend, I understand that.

[Asker]

Oh so that's how it basically work in a guy's perspective... hhhhmmmm..

[boobliker]

no no no so you are a girl. how many boys do you know? and are they friends? so what are they if not boyfriends.

[Asker]

Nice.. so that is how you guys think.. good to know..

[boobliker]

you don't have to kiss or have sex to have a boy as a friend -- boyfriend. last words

[Asker]

Oh okay, that seems to have no sense.. but okay..

[Nikki1989]

That is usually what happens if you have been dating for 2 months.

[Asker]

Oh, okay? Experience wise?

[Ironic_Method]

Probably because you've been dating for 2 months.

[Asker]

Oooooooh, so that's really how guys think...

[Ironic_Method]

That's a general consensus, nothing to do with being a guy. Imagine dating someone for months and the partner gets uppity because you call them your boy/girlfriend.

Of course, your lack of critical thinking us probably why you're asking this question in the first place.

[Asker]

I think guys doesn't tough talks.. they just assume things that are not really there.. hhhhmmm.. well..