Why is it like this?

[Anonymous]

The same thing happens every time. I like a man but he disappears. However when I don't like a man, he texts me continually🙄🤦🏻‍♀️ Am I unlucky?😂

[_Maya_]

I guess you can call that unlucky. Just a string of bad luck from what it sounds like. Let me ask this though. Why does a guy that you don't like have your number to text you? Why would you give it to him in the first place or do you mean that you thought maybe he would be a decent guy and turned out not to be? That part has me confused. Also confusing is if you don't like the guy tell him to knock it off or you aren't interested. Worst case you can block the number.

[Asker]

Yeah cuz they're co-workers or groupmates. They really behave me very well but i don't like them at all🥲 but when I liked a man, i fall in love with him. I think about him all the time and after a while he disappears😒

[BigTony445]

I think you might just be overthinking everything when texting guys you like, unfortunately in this day and age making conversation between men and women requires you to play the game so to speak. What I mean by that is in order to interest a man you’re attracted to, you have to project yourself as a little busier, try to forget about him while doing things for yourself, when he starts to realize that you don’t care about the guy you barely know he’s gonna really double down and try to secure the bag. At the end of the day you really should appreciate the time you have with yourself and not be worried about what guys think of you. Try to be 100% just by yourself, you don’t need anyone else to complete you.

[jahaims]

Nah, you just are bad at picking potential partners

[Asker]

Aah the guys I don't like are really good. They behave me very well🥲

[DishLady]

You are less emotionally invested in the guy you don’t care about so it’s easy for you to ignore him, which then makes it easier for him to engage in the chase. A lot of guys like to chase the girl a little.


With guys you like, you naturally tend to hover and text them and do AAAAAALLLL the stuff that everyone on the planet will tell you not to do. And he has nothing to chase, so he sighs and leaves. It’s the same feeling he’d get if he was looking forward to beating his futbol rivals and suddenly find that he won by default because the other team had to forfeit. There’s nothing for him to do but stand around… and who wants to be THAT guy? Nobody.

[IslaTheWitch]

If you are the only common denominator, then I wouldn't call it "unlucky". Try to retrospect those situations. Probably some of your behaviors when you are interested, are too intense for those men...

[Asker]

Then i shouldn't be interested in anyone🤷‍♀️ i shouldn't care about them...

[IslaTheWitch]

I can't draw conclusions for you. It's your life, your decisions, and your consequences

[MadhuriDixit]

Really?

[Asker]

Yep 😂 I can't understand why it happens. I like a man. I fall in love with him. I think about him all the time but he suddenly disappear

[Asker]

But the guys i don't like text me frequently🥲

[MadhuriDixit]

LoL I develop crushes pretty quick too!
But where do they disappear?

[Asker]

Oh reallyy s** it's saad.. 🥲 I meet them on different apps. We talk beautifully but they disappear after a while. But they live in other countries.. maybe they disappear because of distance🙄😅

[MadhuriDixit]

Sad 😭

[Asker]

Perhaps they have no patience🙄 but i have😭

[MadhuriDixit]

What if they found someone better than us? 🥹

[Asker]

Right😒 it's possible... I'm fed up with this situation😂

[MadhuriDixit]

Me too 🥲
Nice meeting you, maybe drop a follow later if you don't mind 🥲