Why would a guy not admit he’s single again?

[DishLady]

So a good friend of mine has been married for a long time — lovely kids, a new house… the whole dream package.

About a month ago his wife started calling, very insecure, trying to hang out and catch up, etc.

He was completely MIA, though, and neither one mentioned their divorce.

I found out in an odd way when I got an invite to an annual family bbq from my friend’s mom, who starts telling me that she’s always loved me for him, etc.

I figured she’s just having a “silver moment” so I tell her I’ll see her this weekend, which is when she says, “Great! It will be the last party we all have before the divorce.”

I’m worried about my friend…. We usually talk a little every week, but it’s been a month of silence and now I know why.

Is there anything I can do to help him through this tough time — no judgement?

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I’m bummed for him. He and his wife were together for years, and the kids… this is going to affect them. :(

[ryanrhino]

You can literally tell him all of this post and that you want to support him. And, just because he is getting a divorce, doesn't mean he is single... yet.

I gave myself at least 6 months before I even opened up my heart for another significant other in my life. He may be retreating to his cave and all of his free time is to escape.

Divorce is hard and each gender can act wildly different during that emotional time.

[DishLady]

Thanks, bro. Yeah, I remember.

[DishLady]

Just got off the phone with him finally. Heading over tomorrow to get him to eat something, get his *** together, put on his big-boy pants and talk to a good lawyer. Those of us who have experienced divorce knows there are bits of the process that stick in one’s craw. Best to be armed with the right tools to get through it all as smoothly as possible. I just wish it hadn’t happened to him. He’s such an optimist. This is crushing him. :( SMH.

[spartan55]

Depends on what go type of friendship. Maybe bring a home cooked meal