What does it mean if a guy only calls a girl when he's drunk?

[Anonymous]

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He says he misses me but when he's drunk

[Chazmatazz269]

Most likely it means that, like a lot of guys, he’s still suffering from the inability or unwillingness to express himself fully without lowering inhibitions with alcohol and/or drugs. That and rejection is always easier take when under the influence.
You may or may not have contributed to his feelings and his desire to express them.
My experience suggests most women are unwilling and/or unable to create a truly safe space for a man to express himself, and most men learn that the hard way.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

If truth be told he’s either horny or he has feeling for you.

[DishLady]

Means he knows how to hit speed dial.


If he’s drunk it doesn’t mean anything because he’s not in his right mind.

[JacobJordan]

Well alcohol lowers inhibitions in most people. This can result in a more honest approach for that duration. Meaning he may actually like you but isn't willing to risk saying so when sober. Also could be that the lowered inhibitions allow him to say what he normally wouldn't. Either way if you like him you should tell him while he is sober. Might change what happens

[OfMiceandMen]

It means he doesn't have enough courage to talk to you without a shot or two in him. Not the most ideal situation. He should be able to have a conversation with you without the booze.

[Asker]

Do u think he likes me? If he didn't like it, wouldn't he call? He called and said let's meet. We met the person I mentioned once for sex.

[OfMiceandMen]

He probably likes you or he wouldn't call.

[Asker]

Oww It is too sweet. But after 3 months he called

[OfMiceandMen]

You mean 3 months between when he last called?

[Asker]

Yess

[Asker]

We met 3 months ago and he didn't call. I wrote and told him that I missed him, he said already?

[Asker]

I wrote to you like 4 days later, but I mean, we had just met.

[Asker]

To him

[Asker]

Then I wrote a few more times, he didn't seem to want to talk much, so I stopped writing, 3 months later he called and said I missed you, I need you.

[OfMiceandMen]

Interesting, I wonder why the long wait?

[Asker]

Me tooo

[OfMiceandMen]

If they like the girl, most guys don't wait 3 months to talk to them again.

[Asker]

When I asked him about this, he said that a lot was going wrong in his life and that he couldn't get his head together.

[Asker]

So he doesn't like me?

[Asker]

"Come on, let's cuddle and sleep, don't think sexually, I need you right now," he said.

[Asker]

And he insisted for a long time for me to go, but for some reasons I couldn't go.

[OfMiceandMen]

I think I would want some more details about why his head wasn't together for those 3 months, last thing you want to do is start seeing someone who just went through a big break-up and is on the rebound. He should be able to tell you why. You sound like a nice young woman, so be sure you check things out before getting to far into it with him.

[OfMiceandMen]

The drinking and contacting a girl can often be a sign a guy is on the rebound and hurting. Needs the booze to numb the pain.

[Asker]

Actually, I think he was a bit of an alcoholic, so those around him said so. And he really drinks too much almost every day.

[Asker]

He is *

[Asker]

He told me that he was very lonely and unhappy.

[Asker]

He will tell me when we meet again.

[Asker]

But he says he's already forgotten his ex so long ago

[Asker]

I'm so confused, so you don't think he likes me very much?

[OfMiceandMen]

I definitely think he likes you. I'm just saying be careful and go slow if you are going to take him up on his offer.

[Asker]

This made me very happy. But here's the thing. We didn't meet yesterday and he didn't write anything on it.

[Asker]

Okay, he insisted on meeting, he said, "I have something to tell you", but he never asked about it, for example today, that's why I'm confused.

[OfMiceandMen]

Be careful, if he's an alcoholic, it is highly unlikely you can change him if he is and they can be abusive depending on how he reacts to the booze.

[Asker]

If he likes you, is it that hard to send him a message for 3 months?

[Asker]

Likes me *

[Asker]

I mean, I saw that he was very drunk, he wasn't very angry, he just kept saying that he was very sorry and so on.

[Asker]

Why can he be so sad

[OfMiceandMen]

I guess if he wasn't in the right frame of mind then three months is not that long. You would at least expect a little messaging back and forth though, to get to know you better...

[Asker]

And I believe that if we have a serious relationship, he will stop drinking. Because I think he's drinking because he's alone, and if it's me and we have kids, I guess it'll be okay.

[OfMiceandMen]

That's something you would have to ask him. Could be a number of reasons.

[OfMiceandMen]

If he doesn't stop drinking or get control of it in the first month or two then I would call it quits if it were me. I would even give him an ultimatum early on.

[normalice]

Probably he can't find someone he considers better.

[Asker]

Even with money? Couse he has money and he doesn't bother goin to escorts

[normalice]

"Better" is a relative term. I don't know him but it usually has something to do with "more excited about soothing his insecurities." Escorts make sense for a purely physical relief thing so clearly that is not what is going on.

[Asker]

My English is not very good. Could you please make simpler sentences if possible?

[normalice]

Whatever it is he wants from women it is not something escorts provide.

[Asker]

He wants love then?

[Asker]

Becouse escort only dont provide love right?

[normalice]

Maybe. But some men want genuine lust and an escort's job is to fake it.

[RHK36]

It means he thinks you'll cave to a booty call or have already in the past. Definitely doesn't mean he cares. Guys will be more cautious with a girl he cares about unless he's a walking red flag.

[Sharkstealth]

It could mean anything. He could be depressed, lonely at the moment, sex charged, excited, insomnia. Alcohol is a very emotional enhancing drug.

[Raaj4you]

Drunk people tell the truth. People who are afraid of talking when they are sober will definitely tell the truth when they are drunk.

[bobby_bush_eater]

You don't need anyone like that. That's a horny call

[mickeysmonkey]

He is either very shy and gets liquid brave when he drinks, or he just wants sex

[laly520]

I would say thats only drunk talk

[Asker]

What u mean by that

[laly520]

many say lot of nonesense when drunk

[Asker]

Do you think it's ridiculous that he needs me and says he misses me? :(

[Asker]

So he doesn't actually think about these?

[laly520]

maybe he does who knows
tho dont trust in drunk talk cuz it could be random nonesense
have u ever tried to ask him when he is sober?

[Mr_twoface]

He's a dick and wants sex!

[RavVid]

Beer goggles really work for him!

[ProbablyClueless]

That she's nothing serious for him.

[DrPepper12]

Booty call fuck buddy. 💯

[Twalli]

He's not making good choicex

[Asker]

Why u think tht

[Twalli]

Because being drunk makes you do things you wouldn't do sober, but not things you weren't considering. So the fact that he calls you when he gets drunk means he does want to talk to you, but can't when sober because he's scared or knows it will end badly.

[boobliker]

he think a drunken shagg

[Anonymous]

She drives him to drink?😆

[Asker]

What u meann

[Asker]

No no not at all the guys already drinks sometimes

[LEGENDARY4200]

Probably wants some pussy

[Pterodon]

Because you allow it

[RedInnocent69]

He’s horny, but chickenshit in real life.

[jimmy2]

Stay away stay away stay away and run away

[Anonymous]

He's looking for a booty call