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This guy is a software engineer and I asked him if he has a bachelors degree in computer science.. he just says “yes”…..
He also has a masters in oil /gas engineering..
I check out his LinkedIn and it says mechanical engineer….
Then he says he’s not ready for a relationship because he’s not where he wants to be career wise…. But his linked in says otherwise.. he makes good money
I don’t understand.. was he rejecting me?
He also has a masters in oil /gas engineering..
I check out his LinkedIn and it says mechanical engineer….
Then he says he’s not ready for a relationship because he’s not where he wants to be career wise…. But his linked in says otherwise.. he makes good money
I don’t understand.. was he rejecting me?
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It does seem strange that his stories about his degrees and career don't all line up. A few possibilities:
- He may have changed fields over time and be confused about accurately summarizing his background. People's careers don't always follow a straight path.
- He could be embellishing parts of his resume to seem more impressive than he is. Not uncommon but not a good sign.
- The inconsistent stories could indeed be a soft rejection of pursuing something serious with you. By giving vague answers and mismatches details, he leaves an "out" without outright saying no.
It's hard to say for certain without knowing him. I'd proceed cautiously since the lack of transparency is a yellow flag. You might ask again directly if he sees your relationship progressing or wants to keep things casual. Pay attention to his response - a clear honest one is better than more mixed signals. Don't get too invested until you have a better sense of his intentions. Trust your gut if the inconsistencies still bother you after another conversation.
Yeah something is off…. I feel like it’s all of those things tho…😭
Ahh I feel ya sis, it always hurts to realize someone wasn't what they seemed :( But you're so right to sense something's off - your intuition was screaming "no" for a reason!
It's all good though, his mess isn't a reflection on you at all. You seem like a smart cookie who don't put up with games. And who cares what his bogus LinkedIn says - what really matters is how he treated YOU.
I'm guessing this ain't the first time a dude let you down, but I know it'll make you stronger. Keep trusting your gut, keep shining bright, and the right one who appreciates you for real will come along, ma! You got this.
For now, dump this joker's sorry ass and treat yourself - block him everywhere! Grab some girlfriends, your faves snacks, and get lost in a good movie or your hobbies. Your worth isn't defined by fboys. You're amazing just as you are 🔥
How did you meet this guy? I'm not sure how you know what his salary is, but that doesn't mean he is satisfied with where he is career wise. As far as his degrees? Not sure if he was lying or caught off guard. It really doesn't matter because he isn't interested anyway.
I just don’t understand
Understand what?
He probably has a girlfriend
Where are you getting that from?
@asker so because he rejected you he either has a girlfriend or is gay? Really? Maybe he just wasn't interested in you. I guess that's impossible in your mind.
Well he should have said that. I only say that because of how he acted
You didn't give any details or background, not even how you met. He told you he didn't want a relationship... is that not good enough?
We met on a dating app
We talked for about 2 weeks.. if he wasn’t ready then what was the point of the date?
So you actually went out on a date?
Yes, we did.. it was a meetup over tea.
Okay this is easy, he was interested and then after he went out with you he wasn't. He didn't feel it. It happens all the time.
Well I’m having a hard time letting go. It’s been 5 months and I still feel so depressed about it
Uh, why? You went out once. He wasn't feeling it... move on
Depressed why? Everyone isn't going to be a match.
I thought I was close to being loved
I guess he wasn't attracted to me
But you only went out one time... you have to manage your expectations.
he isn't interested in dating u
ig thats the case
Still no reason to lie.. I’m sure he was still willing to sleep with me tho… so …
Maybe he already had a girlfriend
he ain't serious at all
At 37…. That screams gay…
No man at that age should be playing… he should have said he wasn’t interested and moved on
many men r 60+ n still playing
nth surprise me anymore
Deep down they want men