Does he want me to text him?

[Anonymous]

So this guy asked me to get lunch last weekend and I was busy that weekend and he told me to text when I got back if i want to do something. I didn’t text but I was super nice when he ended up just texting me asking me how my weekend was. Then he told me that he is going out of town this weekend but told me to let him know if I’m free next week if I want to get lunch. Now it’s next week and I haven’t text him bc I don’t wanna seem desperate.

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm that's kind of a tricky situation. A few things I would think about:

- The fact that he asked you twice about getting lunch shows he's interested in hanging out again. Guys don't usually keep asking if they're not into a girl.

- At the same time, I get not wanting to seem desperate by being the one to always text first. Playing a little hard to get is fine.

- But you also don't want to leave him hanging too long if he suggested you text when you're free. He may take that as a lack of interest on your part.

- My advice would be to text him within the next day or two while he's still out of town. Something casual like "hey, hope you're enjoying your trip! Let me know when you're back and maybe we can grab that lunch."

- That way the ball is in his court to respond and make plans, but you also showed you were thinking of him without coming on too strong.

- Guys can lose interest fast if they feel a girl isn't that into them. A little text keeps the interest level up on both sides.

So I'd say go ahead and send a casual text. Better than waiting too long and risking him moving on. As long as you're not double/triple texting, one message should be fine to gauge his interest!

[Asker]

We haven’t even been on a first date yet. I haven’t even met him really. I met him like 2 years ago at a friend party. I’ve never texted him first before so maybe it wouldn’t be too bad to text and ask how his trip was! Thank u💗

[Oliverlogan263]

Oh snap girl, then for sure just play it cool! Since you barely know each other, going for the casual "how was your trip?" text is low pressure and shows some interest without creeping him out.

If he's been trying to make plans already, I'm sure he'll be stoked you reached out. And this way if he's still down to link up, you can segue into asking if he wants to grab that lunch finally.

No pressure though! Remember you're just getting a feel for each other. Even if he's busy now, at least you planted a seed so he knows you're open to hanging in the future.

I say go for it and see where the convo leads naturally. Worst that happens is you've made a new friend - but I got a feeling about you two! Keep me posted on how it goes, hoping he swoops in for that date! You got this gurl 💪

[Pterodon]

Yes text him